I need some ones openion on this . i have been friends with my ex girl friend for 2-3 years now , we have both been in many othar relationships since then , but we kinda had a good thing going so we didnt end our friendship . but lately i realised that everytime i fall i am using her as my blanket and i had sex with her whenever i felt desperet . then i realized in my advencture in becoming a dj she is becoming my weekness so i took the blanket away in the most brutal way . then i tought to my self r u an idiet ? why the hell did you do that to the poor girl ? i guess i am just feeling guilty . i hope i did not misinterprete the dj bible . so did i do the right thing ?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Am i an idiet ?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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i think ur asking if ur an idiot, because i dont know what an idiet is. If so, you answered your own question. Sorry i was too amused by this to remember what your post said.
mate, dont let this site turn you into somebody you're not
let it improve you, gain tips, improve your quality of life
but don't let yourself turn into a pompous, self-loving, arragant a$$hole, (unless thats the kind of person you are already)
though that girl you described did seem alot like a FWB or booty call
let it improve you, gain tips, improve your quality of life
but don't let yourself turn into a pompous, self-loving, arragant a$$hole, (unless thats the kind of person you are already)
though that girl you described did seem alot like a FWB or booty call
Docs
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.Learn.To.Properly.Spell.You.Noob.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Charm&Style
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plz dont make fun of the persian accent.Docs said:
tanx
Fob Out
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chakerym agha reza.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Docs
Banned
^ Psst, it's situational dependant. I love my ex to death. 
That aside, he should move on..lol
That aside, he should move on..lol
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cyp6 said:
not always, sometimes its just being pisses, or feeling unappareciated. Or misunderstood even. Insecurity is such a general word. People r too complex to be described with "insecure"
I would say that it was a great situation reza. Sounds like you got along well with her, had no issues unresolved with her and got to **** her every so often. She probably enjoyed the situation too if she wasn't bringing up getting back together with you. I don't see a reason why this would be a bad situation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well I don’t know how you handle your exes vorbis But if I say I never had any thought (or even better “ hope”) of getting back to her I would be lying I mean its not practically possible to be completely friends with some one , once you had some emotional or/and physical contacts. Despite all this I agree with what you are saying, that having some one like this around makes you feel good or at least not desperate and depressed when you are supposed to be. But the question is “Is that worth the weakness which you are creating by becoming dependent on this illusion of comfort. I say illusion cause I think a dj is defined as some one who is able to look ahead in life and be able to grasp on every new opportunity that pops up on the way . and the only time that he looks back is to learn from his mistakes . So in my own mind I just removed an obstacle. Something which was supposed to be over in the past. so that I can have a better view of the future .