"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Am I a pervert?

confusedstate

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I have a lot of unusual fantasies.

I’d like a woman to just be an exhibitionist of sorts, like a strip club but in real life…walking around naked, serving me nachos and drinks…cuddling with me while watching married with children (and actually thinking the show is funny, not just for my sake.)

I’d like to do a nude photo session with a woman…in bed together, even in sexual positions…not porn…just posing…or even a regular photo shoot where we’re two models and I’m behind her with my hands on her breasts like that Janet Jackson album cover from the 90s.


In general, 90 percent of the porn I look at is just women walking around after sex, their asses moving from left to right, or women skinny dipping.

Am I some kind of voyeur/exhibitionist/pervert?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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confusedstate

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This is serious. I'm wondering if I asked a woman to indulge, if she'd think I was a weirdo.
 

loveshogun

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confusedstate said:
Am I some kind of voyeur/exhibitionist/pervert?
Ooh, this one's easy. Ahem.

No.

If you start having fantasies about centaurs, then MAYBE. But no.
 

loveshogun

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confusedstate said:
This is serious. I'm wondering if I asked a woman to indulge, if she'd think I was a weirdo.
You don't even want to know what I've had women indulge. Then again, maybe you do.

Anyone want some Shogun stories while I'm on my no-masturbation challenge?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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zekko

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We're males, we're all perverts. Get used to it.
 

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Most of my GF have been into getting naked pictures shot and showing off their bodies. Several have stripped down in places that were technically public for a quick nudie photo series. Sex in places that are dangerous", etc.

Pretty girls like to see themselves and be admired. Simple.
 

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Lol wtf, I'm sure there are some people who might call you a "pervert" but who the hell cares ?! I don't particularly care for all that sh*t you mentioned ("married with children"...LOL) but if that's what you like, go out and get it!

You'll be surprised at how women will adapt for YOU when you're absolutely certain about what you want. As long as it's not illegal and doesn't cross your own personal moral boundaries, then go out and have fun!
 

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This is way less weird than being turned on by an extreme closeup of penis going into a vagina, stripped of all context. So you admire the female form. Why would that be weird?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
This is way less weird than being turned on by an extreme closeup of penis going into a vagina, stripped of all context. So you admire the female form. Why would that be weird?
Correct. There's nothing wrong with admiring the female form in fact it means that you are a perfectly healthy male.

If you were into looking at naked guys well then that's another story :eek:
 

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The other thing I want, for an LTR anyway, is for the girl to be really into fashion (I’m really into fashion but not into the latest trends, just care about wearing good outfits and being clean cut) and I’d like a girl to wear nice dresses/secretary outfits…nice blouses etc…so we can look like one of those power couples where women check me out and guys check her out lol.

Yes I’m aware I’m weird and an attention-wh0re.
 

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confusedstate said:
The other thing I want, for an LTR anyway, is for the girl to be really into fashion (I’m really into fashion but not into the latest trends, just care about wearing good outfits and being clean cut) and I’d like a girl to wear nice dresses/secretary outfits…nice blouses etc…so we can look like one of those power couples where women check me out and guys check her out lol.

Yes I’m aware I’m weird and an attention-wh0re.
I was just gonna say, you sound a bit like a stereotypical "chick."

This thread got very Cosmo very fast.

Quick! Someone bust out a story of manliness all over this thread's A cup chest!
 

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To get back to the original topic…I have a picture of the type of body I like but I’m not sure if nude pics are allowed here?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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