"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Am I a pervert?

confusedstate

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I have a lot of unusual fantasies.

I’d like a woman to just be an exhibitionist of sorts, like a strip club but in real life…walking around naked, serving me nachos and drinks…cuddling with me while watching married with children (and actually thinking the show is funny, not just for my sake.)

I’d like to do a nude photo session with a woman…in bed together, even in sexual positions…not porn…just posing…or even a regular photo shoot where we’re two models and I’m behind her with my hands on her breasts like that Janet Jackson album cover from the 90s.


In general, 90 percent of the porn I look at is just women walking around after sex, their asses moving from left to right, or women skinny dipping.

Am I some kind of voyeur/exhibitionist/pervert?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This is serious. I'm wondering if I asked a woman to indulge, if she'd think I was a weirdo.
 

loveshogun

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confusedstate said:
Am I some kind of voyeur/exhibitionist/pervert?
Ooh, this one's easy. Ahem.

No.

If you start having fantasies about centaurs, then MAYBE. But no.
 

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confusedstate said:
This is serious. I'm wondering if I asked a woman to indulge, if she'd think I was a weirdo.
You don't even want to know what I've had women indulge. Then again, maybe you do.

Anyone want some Shogun stories while I'm on my no-masturbation challenge?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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We're males, we're all perverts. Get used to it.
 

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Most of my GF have been into getting naked pictures shot and showing off their bodies. Several have stripped down in places that were technically public for a quick nudie photo series. Sex in places that are dangerous", etc.

Pretty girls like to see themselves and be admired. Simple.
 

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Lol wtf, I'm sure there are some people who might call you a "pervert" but who the hell cares ?! I don't particularly care for all that sh*t you mentioned ("married with children"...LOL) but if that's what you like, go out and get it!

You'll be surprised at how women will adapt for YOU when you're absolutely certain about what you want. As long as it's not illegal and doesn't cross your own personal moral boundaries, then go out and have fun!
 

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This is way less weird than being turned on by an extreme closeup of penis going into a vagina, stripped of all context. So you admire the female form. Why would that be weird?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
This is way less weird than being turned on by an extreme closeup of penis going into a vagina, stripped of all context. So you admire the female form. Why would that be weird?
Correct. There's nothing wrong with admiring the female form in fact it means that you are a perfectly healthy male.

If you were into looking at naked guys well then that's another story :eek:
 

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The other thing I want, for an LTR anyway, is for the girl to be really into fashion (I’m really into fashion but not into the latest trends, just care about wearing good outfits and being clean cut) and I’d like a girl to wear nice dresses/secretary outfits…nice blouses etc…so we can look like one of those power couples where women check me out and guys check her out lol.

Yes I’m aware I’m weird and an attention-wh0re.
 

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confusedstate said:
The other thing I want, for an LTR anyway, is for the girl to be really into fashion (I’m really into fashion but not into the latest trends, just care about wearing good outfits and being clean cut) and I’d like a girl to wear nice dresses/secretary outfits…nice blouses etc…so we can look like one of those power couples where women check me out and guys check her out lol.

Yes I’m aware I’m weird and an attention-wh0re.
I was just gonna say, you sound a bit like a stereotypical "chick."

This thread got very Cosmo very fast.

Quick! Someone bust out a story of manliness all over this thread's A cup chest!
 

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To get back to the original topic…I have a picture of the type of body I like but I’m not sure if nude pics are allowed here?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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