"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Am I a pervert?

confusedstate

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I have a lot of unusual fantasies.

I’d like a woman to just be an exhibitionist of sorts, like a strip club but in real life…walking around naked, serving me nachos and drinks…cuddling with me while watching married with children (and actually thinking the show is funny, not just for my sake.)

I’d like to do a nude photo session with a woman…in bed together, even in sexual positions…not porn…just posing…or even a regular photo shoot where we’re two models and I’m behind her with my hands on her breasts like that Janet Jackson album cover from the 90s.


In general, 90 percent of the porn I look at is just women walking around after sex, their asses moving from left to right, or women skinny dipping.

Am I some kind of voyeur/exhibitionist/pervert?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is serious. I'm wondering if I asked a woman to indulge, if she'd think I was a weirdo.
 

loveshogun

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confusedstate said:
Am I some kind of voyeur/exhibitionist/pervert?
Ooh, this one's easy. Ahem.

No.

If you start having fantasies about centaurs, then MAYBE. But no.
 

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confusedstate said:
This is serious. I'm wondering if I asked a woman to indulge, if she'd think I was a weirdo.
You don't even want to know what I've had women indulge. Then again, maybe you do.

Anyone want some Shogun stories while I'm on my no-masturbation challenge?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko

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We're males, we're all perverts. Get used to it.
 

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Most of my GF have been into getting naked pictures shot and showing off their bodies. Several have stripped down in places that were technically public for a quick nudie photo series. Sex in places that are dangerous", etc.

Pretty girls like to see themselves and be admired. Simple.
 

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Lol wtf, I'm sure there are some people who might call you a "pervert" but who the hell cares ?! I don't particularly care for all that sh*t you mentioned ("married with children"...LOL) but if that's what you like, go out and get it!

You'll be surprised at how women will adapt for YOU when you're absolutely certain about what you want. As long as it's not illegal and doesn't cross your own personal moral boundaries, then go out and have fun!
 

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This is way less weird than being turned on by an extreme closeup of penis going into a vagina, stripped of all context. So you admire the female form. Why would that be weird?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
This is way less weird than being turned on by an extreme closeup of penis going into a vagina, stripped of all context. So you admire the female form. Why would that be weird?
Correct. There's nothing wrong with admiring the female form in fact it means that you are a perfectly healthy male.

If you were into looking at naked guys well then that's another story :eek:
 

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The other thing I want, for an LTR anyway, is for the girl to be really into fashion (I’m really into fashion but not into the latest trends, just care about wearing good outfits and being clean cut) and I’d like a girl to wear nice dresses/secretary outfits…nice blouses etc…so we can look like one of those power couples where women check me out and guys check her out lol.

Yes I’m aware I’m weird and an attention-wh0re.
 

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confusedstate said:
The other thing I want, for an LTR anyway, is for the girl to be really into fashion (I’m really into fashion but not into the latest trends, just care about wearing good outfits and being clean cut) and I’d like a girl to wear nice dresses/secretary outfits…nice blouses etc…so we can look like one of those power couples where women check me out and guys check her out lol.

Yes I’m aware I’m weird and an attention-wh0re.
I was just gonna say, you sound a bit like a stereotypical "chick."

This thread got very Cosmo very fast.

Quick! Someone bust out a story of manliness all over this thread's A cup chest!
 

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To get back to the original topic…I have a picture of the type of body I like but I’m not sure if nude pics are allowed here?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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