She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
WTF?!? I go away for an extended vacation from the site to find out that sh!t like this still exists. I cannot believe this.Passion said:
Funny, I went to high school and a lot of good girls were not taken. I am currently in college at Millersville University. I met two girls that i could seriously think about dating. The one girl just started to date a girl but when she came here she was single for life. The other girl is even more amazing. She is smart, trilingual, and has an alright body. I found her to be extremely funny and witty. She has never had a date in her life. Whenever I hear someone say, "I can't find any good girls left." I still find them and they still approach me. 90% of everything that you say, is not spoken. It is the body language and things that you do that mean so much.
Shark, That post was increadible. Guys, Shark's post was right on point.shark said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.