tony-montana
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yep. i'm still alive.. haven't had sex since 2003. almost did it couple years ago with ex gf. but her mom was in the kitchen ;o
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
ain't had sex since 2003. who can beat me?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm Charming
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Only about a third of the men on this site apparently.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
That's gotta be pretty rough guys. Well handy is still a virgin, but for the OP, with that long, I'd almost wish I was a virgin so as to not know what I was missing.
Good luck man.
Good luck man.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
fwiw, I went about two and a half years without sex after I got divorced. But dry spells end when you want them to badly enough. This past year, I have not gone over three or four days without getting laid.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well, somewhat true. That's the funny thing about sex.
Even when it is amazing its not THAT good a feeling (or anyway not THAT much better than masturbation) to justify how much we want it logically.
But my sex drive pushes me to really want it after a few days even though it's not 'that' great.
We aren't addicted to the pleasure, just driven to want it regardless. THe pleasure is a nice bonus.
Even when it is amazing its not THAT good a feeling (or anyway not THAT much better than masturbation) to justify how much we want it logically.
But my sex drive pushes me to really want it after a few days even though it's not 'that' great.
We aren't addicted to the pleasure, just driven to want it regardless. THe pleasure is a nice bonus.
Haven't yet. I'm saving it for my wife.
I've got way too much more important stuff to do than to obsessed over "getting laid." I'm not a hypocrite. I don't like slutty girls that sleep around...so I hold myself to the same standard.
That's what it means to be a man, IMO.
-Dave
I've got way too much more important stuff to do than to obsessed over "getting laid." I'm not a hypocrite. I don't like slutty girls that sleep around...so I hold myself to the same standard.
That's what it means to be a man, IMO.
-Dave
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well that's your opinion and I respect that.
I just wanted to point out, I wasn't talking about sleeping around. I see that as hypocritical too, so I have sex in LTRS. This way I don't have to wait for marriage (which will not be for another 10 years for me, minimum) and I don't have to screw *****s or be a man*****.
I just wanted to point out, I wasn't talking about sleeping around. I see that as hypocritical too, so I have sex in LTRS. This way I don't have to wait for marriage (which will not be for another 10 years for me, minimum) and I don't have to screw *****s or be a man*****.
I went over a year and a half without getting laid a few years ago, and now that I think about it, I had chances all-the-freaking-time to end that streak. I either went in for the kill too quickly, didn't persist enough, or just didn't see that the opportunity was there (even though now it's blindingly obvious to me that they were). If I would have just escalated things properly, I could have had a lot of sex during that time.
Don't give up. You probably have a lot more opportunities than you even realize.
Don't give up. You probably have a lot more opportunities than you even realize.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Since 1985!HandyAndy said:Since 1992
YAY! I think Im winning!:cheer:
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
Holy sh it dude, holy sh it.Rebound Material said:
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
DarthAngel707 said:
slickaz said:
IM TOTALLY SERIOUS.
I think whats making this sound so bad is cuz I mentioned 1985 which is the year I was born. Im basically in the same situation as Handy but worse haha. Im about to be a 23 year old virgin in about a month...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
well Rebound in a way I sort of commend you...strangely...the world always appreciates virgins....even if they are guys...lol
if you get married the sex would be very special, but then again go do a hooker already.
Also, sometimes it doesn't pay to be too honest. By saying you're a virgin, you're openly admitting that you are a virgin KJ. Whenver I read posts by Handy Andy, Luke Skywalker, or ItsonNow i sometimes laugh and just dismiss what they say because of this. I hope I don't put you in this category.
if you get married the sex would be very special, but then again go do a hooker already.
Also, sometimes it doesn't pay to be too honest. By saying you're a virgin, you're openly admitting that you are a virgin KJ. Whenver I read posts by Handy Andy, Luke Skywalker, or ItsonNow i sometimes laugh and just dismiss what they say because of this. I hope I don't put you in this category.
LostAndConfused
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Ain't had sex EVER.
I win. By default.
I win. By default.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Thanks man.DarthAngel707 said:
As far as openly admitting Im a virgin, I only do it on this board and to REALLY close friends(mostly guys). I used to mention that I was a virgin all the time 3 years ago until I realized what kind of damage I was doing to myself socially. Nowadays when that subject comes up in group talk or whatever, I apply "They don't ask, then I won't say" rule. And if they do ask, Im not gonna lie, but then again I won't admit it either. I say something like "I don't kiss and tell
" or "Wow, you're that curious huh? " in a ****y way. ...Yea, people DO appreciate virgins but only a small amount...
Im not too familiar with Handy Andy's or ItsOnNow's posts, but I am damn aware of Luke Skywalker's(LOL). I can't say that I've been completely non-sexual or havent had opportunities because ive had my share...I just didnt take it all the way cuz I was being a pvssy
."You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.