tony-montana
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yep. i'm still alive.. haven't had sex since 2003. almost did it couple years ago with ex gf. but her mom was in the kitchen ;o
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ain't had sex since 2003. who can beat me?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm Charming
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Only about a third of the men on this site apparently.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
That's gotta be pretty rough guys. Well handy is still a virgin, but for the OP, with that long, I'd almost wish I was a virgin so as to not know what I was missing.
Good luck man.
Good luck man.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
fwiw, I went about two and a half years without sex after I got divorced. But dry spells end when you want them to badly enough. This past year, I have not gone over three or four days without getting laid.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well, somewhat true. That's the funny thing about sex.
Even when it is amazing its not THAT good a feeling (or anyway not THAT much better than masturbation) to justify how much we want it logically.
But my sex drive pushes me to really want it after a few days even though it's not 'that' great.
We aren't addicted to the pleasure, just driven to want it regardless. THe pleasure is a nice bonus.
Even when it is amazing its not THAT good a feeling (or anyway not THAT much better than masturbation) to justify how much we want it logically.
But my sex drive pushes me to really want it after a few days even though it's not 'that' great.
We aren't addicted to the pleasure, just driven to want it regardless. THe pleasure is a nice bonus.
Haven't yet. I'm saving it for my wife.
I've got way too much more important stuff to do than to obsessed over "getting laid." I'm not a hypocrite. I don't like slutty girls that sleep around...so I hold myself to the same standard.
That's what it means to be a man, IMO.
-Dave
I've got way too much more important stuff to do than to obsessed over "getting laid." I'm not a hypocrite. I don't like slutty girls that sleep around...so I hold myself to the same standard.
That's what it means to be a man, IMO.
-Dave
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well that's your opinion and I respect that.
I just wanted to point out, I wasn't talking about sleeping around. I see that as hypocritical too, so I have sex in LTRS. This way I don't have to wait for marriage (which will not be for another 10 years for me, minimum) and I don't have to screw *****s or be a man*****.
I just wanted to point out, I wasn't talking about sleeping around. I see that as hypocritical too, so I have sex in LTRS. This way I don't have to wait for marriage (which will not be for another 10 years for me, minimum) and I don't have to screw *****s or be a man*****.
I went over a year and a half without getting laid a few years ago, and now that I think about it, I had chances all-the-freaking-time to end that streak. I either went in for the kill too quickly, didn't persist enough, or just didn't see that the opportunity was there (even though now it's blindingly obvious to me that they were). If I would have just escalated things properly, I could have had a lot of sex during that time.
Don't give up. You probably have a lot more opportunities than you even realize.
Don't give up. You probably have a lot more opportunities than you even realize.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Since 1985!HandyAndy said:Since 1992
YAY! I think Im winning!:cheer:
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
Holy sh it dude, holy sh it.Rebound Material said:
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
DarthAngel707 said:
slickaz said:
IM TOTALLY SERIOUS.
I think whats making this sound so bad is cuz I mentioned 1985 which is the year I was born. Im basically in the same situation as Handy but worse haha. Im about to be a 23 year old virgin in about a month...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
well Rebound in a way I sort of commend you...strangely...the world always appreciates virgins....even if they are guys...lol
if you get married the sex would be very special, but then again go do a hooker already.
Also, sometimes it doesn't pay to be too honest. By saying you're a virgin, you're openly admitting that you are a virgin KJ. Whenver I read posts by Handy Andy, Luke Skywalker, or ItsonNow i sometimes laugh and just dismiss what they say because of this. I hope I don't put you in this category.
if you get married the sex would be very special, but then again go do a hooker already.
Also, sometimes it doesn't pay to be too honest. By saying you're a virgin, you're openly admitting that you are a virgin KJ. Whenver I read posts by Handy Andy, Luke Skywalker, or ItsonNow i sometimes laugh and just dismiss what they say because of this. I hope I don't put you in this category.
LostAndConfused
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Ain't had sex EVER.
I win. By default.
I win. By default.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Thanks man.DarthAngel707 said:
As far as openly admitting Im a virgin, I only do it on this board and to REALLY close friends(mostly guys). I used to mention that I was a virgin all the time 3 years ago until I realized what kind of damage I was doing to myself socially. Nowadays when that subject comes up in group talk or whatever, I apply "They don't ask, then I won't say" rule. And if they do ask, Im not gonna lie, but then again I won't admit it either. I say something like "I don't kiss and tell
" or "Wow, you're that curious huh? " in a ****y way. ...Yea, people DO appreciate virgins but only a small amount...
Im not too familiar with Handy Andy's or ItsOnNow's posts, but I am damn aware of Luke Skywalker's(LOL). I can't say that I've been completely non-sexual or havent had opportunities because ive had my share...I just didnt take it all the way cuz I was being a pvssy
."You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.