tony-montana
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yep. i'm still alive.. haven't had sex since 2003. almost did it couple years ago with ex gf. but her mom was in the kitchen ;o
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ain't had sex since 2003. who can beat me?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'm Charming
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Only about a third of the men on this site apparently.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
That's gotta be pretty rough guys. Well handy is still a virgin, but for the OP, with that long, I'd almost wish I was a virgin so as to not know what I was missing.
Good luck man.
Good luck man.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
fwiw, I went about two and a half years without sex after I got divorced. But dry spells end when you want them to badly enough. This past year, I have not gone over three or four days without getting laid.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well, somewhat true. That's the funny thing about sex.
Even when it is amazing its not THAT good a feeling (or anyway not THAT much better than masturbation) to justify how much we want it logically.
But my sex drive pushes me to really want it after a few days even though it's not 'that' great.
We aren't addicted to the pleasure, just driven to want it regardless. THe pleasure is a nice bonus.
Even when it is amazing its not THAT good a feeling (or anyway not THAT much better than masturbation) to justify how much we want it logically.
But my sex drive pushes me to really want it after a few days even though it's not 'that' great.
We aren't addicted to the pleasure, just driven to want it regardless. THe pleasure is a nice bonus.
Haven't yet. I'm saving it for my wife.
I've got way too much more important stuff to do than to obsessed over "getting laid." I'm not a hypocrite. I don't like slutty girls that sleep around...so I hold myself to the same standard.
That's what it means to be a man, IMO.
-Dave
I've got way too much more important stuff to do than to obsessed over "getting laid." I'm not a hypocrite. I don't like slutty girls that sleep around...so I hold myself to the same standard.
That's what it means to be a man, IMO.
-Dave
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Well that's your opinion and I respect that.
I just wanted to point out, I wasn't talking about sleeping around. I see that as hypocritical too, so I have sex in LTRS. This way I don't have to wait for marriage (which will not be for another 10 years for me, minimum) and I don't have to screw *****s or be a man*****.
I just wanted to point out, I wasn't talking about sleeping around. I see that as hypocritical too, so I have sex in LTRS. This way I don't have to wait for marriage (which will not be for another 10 years for me, minimum) and I don't have to screw *****s or be a man*****.
I went over a year and a half without getting laid a few years ago, and now that I think about it, I had chances all-the-freaking-time to end that streak. I either went in for the kill too quickly, didn't persist enough, or just didn't see that the opportunity was there (even though now it's blindingly obvious to me that they were). If I would have just escalated things properly, I could have had a lot of sex during that time.
Don't give up. You probably have a lot more opportunities than you even realize.
Don't give up. You probably have a lot more opportunities than you even realize.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Since 1985!HandyAndy said:Since 1992
YAY! I think Im winning!:cheer:
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
Holy sh it dude, holy sh it.Rebound Material said:
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
DarthAngel707 said:
slickaz said:
IM TOTALLY SERIOUS.
I think whats making this sound so bad is cuz I mentioned 1985 which is the year I was born. Im basically in the same situation as Handy but worse haha. Im about to be a 23 year old virgin in about a month...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
DarthAngel707
Don Juan
well Rebound in a way I sort of commend you...strangely...the world always appreciates virgins....even if they are guys...lol
if you get married the sex would be very special, but then again go do a hooker already.
Also, sometimes it doesn't pay to be too honest. By saying you're a virgin, you're openly admitting that you are a virgin KJ. Whenver I read posts by Handy Andy, Luke Skywalker, or ItsonNow i sometimes laugh and just dismiss what they say because of this. I hope I don't put you in this category.
if you get married the sex would be very special, but then again go do a hooker already.
Also, sometimes it doesn't pay to be too honest. By saying you're a virgin, you're openly admitting that you are a virgin KJ. Whenver I read posts by Handy Andy, Luke Skywalker, or ItsonNow i sometimes laugh and just dismiss what they say because of this. I hope I don't put you in this category.
LostAndConfused
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Ain't had sex EVER.
I win. By default.
I win. By default.
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
Thanks man.DarthAngel707 said:
As far as openly admitting Im a virgin, I only do it on this board and to REALLY close friends(mostly guys). I used to mention that I was a virgin all the time 3 years ago until I realized what kind of damage I was doing to myself socially. Nowadays when that subject comes up in group talk or whatever, I apply "They don't ask, then I won't say" rule. And if they do ask, Im not gonna lie, but then again I won't admit it either. I say something like "I don't kiss and tell
" or "Wow, you're that curious huh? " in a ****y way. ...Yea, people DO appreciate virgins but only a small amount...
Im not too familiar with Handy Andy's or ItsOnNow's posts, but I am damn aware of Luke Skywalker's(LOL). I can't say that I've been completely non-sexual or havent had opportunities because ive had my share...I just didnt take it all the way cuz I was being a pvssy
."She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.