Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Originally posted by Metaphysikal_Lover
major break ups have a way of aging you.
taken weeks before I dumped young ****:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/chriscraig3.jpg
I was still getting carded at 43.
taken a few months ago:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/CROPPEDHEADSHOT1.jpg
I've aged from what folks thought was 29 to late 30's.
I say find the right match in age and
personality.
The biggest age difference for me has been 20 yrs. I was 23, they were 43. Never dated them though(as both women were one nighters), except for one, kinda.Originally posted by jond
It seems to me that its ALWAYS socially okay to date 21+ year olds, but as I'm getting ready to turn 30 in a few weeks, the age difference seems pretty big.
Whats the biggest age difference you've had when going out with a chick?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Educational in what sense? You learnt a lot or learnt that you dont want to deal with older gals?Originally posted by MFinnegan
Though I am SURE AS HELL not gonna complain about hooking up with younger women, Ive got to say the scenario with the older woman was much more 'educational'.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...Originally posted by Spartan
Me 34...she 45ish (still wont tell me) HB9.5 blonde. Slim, sexy, fun and looks in her 30's. Got more stamina than the younger women and knows exactly how she likes it.lol
sure they can..Originally posted by stevera004
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
You should get out more, you have no idea what you're missing...Originally posted by stevera004
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.