"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Age Difference -- Whats biggest difference you've had?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
JustTheSt8tAlcohol
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I can understand and agree with just about everything you said here. Unfortunately, older women...although seemingly more settled...are that way for a lot of reasons...many of the reasons are not necessarily good. As women get older...they generally don't get better looking. A lot of the settling they do has a lot to do with fewer opportunities in terms of being approached by men...and also the weariness that comes from all the responsibilities of adult life. The mortgage, children...so forth and so on.
This is perhaps why I've read several other posts regarding older women being easy. I've actually heard this a lot...and understand it. I am not saying that this is true all the time...but there is some truth to it for the reasons I listed above. Please don't be offended (anyone). I just want to be honest in my opinions and support my perceptions. So although they do tend to be more stable they are also a lot more set in their ways and less receptive to change...whether it be good or bad. Their are pro's and con's to dating both older and younger women.
I am not speaking against older women...but perhaps instead making the point that age and other superficial qualities in and of themselves really aren't determining factors for much of anything. I think, more importantly, it can be difficult to find someone that is on the same wave legnth as yourself. I agree with the statement that really, anything more than a decade is kind of excessive. You see, at 10 years...you two can share some of the same memories...when the other person was born you were still a child, or vice versa. I find it difficult to comprehend relationships where there is as much as 2 decades between two people. One person was a full grown adult when the other was just coming into this world. In some ways that's a lifetime of difference.
Anyway...I'm straying from my point. Connecting with someone closer to your age is preferable for understandable reasons...but it really is so much more than that. Ask some of your friends in relationships with women near their own age. I bet they don't have too much more to say on a positive note than you do.
I enjoyed the pics and saw your point. You've learned some useful things that have helped me too.
The real difficulty is in finding someone that you can eally connect with and trust with your feelings...
That supercedes age...
Thanks.
The biggest age difference for me has been 20 yrs. I was 23, they were 43. Never dated them though(as both women were one nighters), except for one, kinda.
The oldest I can say that I've actually "dated", was 36. I was 24 at the time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Good_ol_boy
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earthshyne
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Her, older by 8 yrs
englishman
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Gangster Of Love
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
-HPNOTIQ-
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at 24 she was 31
dating is 22. ( I pass for 36, believe it or not) but she knew
my age and didn't care. I screwed up and fell in love with
her and this has pretty much scared her off.
I am old enough to know better.
RC
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al77
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Educational in what sense? You learnt a lot or learnt that you dont want to deal with older gals?
Aztec
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Spartan
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lolstevera004
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Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...Originally posted by Spartan
Me 34...she 45ish (still wont tell me) HB9.5 blonde. Slim, sexy, fun and looks in her 30's. Got more stamina than the younger women and knows exactly how she likes it.
NewMan
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Me:26 Her:17 - Those were the days
Me:32 Her:44 - A little mature slvt - loved to swallow.
penkitten
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sure they can..
when you get 45 dont you think you will still be hot?
Francisco d'Anconia
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You should get out more, you have no idea what you're missing...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.