"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Age Difference -- Whats biggest difference you've had?

A-Unit

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Me 24, Her 17.5

Me 24, Her going on 34 (1 month)

A-Unit
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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JustTheSt8tAlcohol

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Originally posted by Metaphysikal_Lover
major break ups have a way of aging you.

taken weeks before I dumped young ****:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/chriscraig3.jpg

I was still getting carded at 43.

taken a few months ago:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/CROPPEDHEADSHOT1.jpg

I've aged from what folks thought was 29 to late 30's.

I say find the right match in age and

personality.



I can understand and agree with just about everything you said here. Unfortunately, older women...although seemingly more settled...are that way for a lot of reasons...many of the reasons are not necessarily good. As women get older...they generally don't get better looking. A lot of the settling they do has a lot to do with fewer opportunities in terms of being approached by men...and also the weariness that comes from all the responsibilities of adult life. The mortgage, children...so forth and so on.
This is perhaps why I've read several other posts regarding older women being easy. I've actually heard this a lot...and understand it. I am not saying that this is true all the time...but there is some truth to it for the reasons I listed above. Please don't be offended (anyone). I just want to be honest in my opinions and support my perceptions. So although they do tend to be more stable they are also a lot more set in their ways and less receptive to change...whether it be good or bad. Their are pro's and con's to dating both older and younger women.
I am not speaking against older women...but perhaps instead making the point that age and other superficial qualities in and of themselves really aren't determining factors for much of anything. I think, more importantly, it can be difficult to find someone that is on the same wave legnth as yourself. I agree with the statement that really, anything more than a decade is kind of excessive. You see, at 10 years...you two can share some of the same memories...when the other person was born you were still a child, or vice versa. I find it difficult to comprehend relationships where there is as much as 2 decades between two people. One person was a full grown adult when the other was just coming into this world. In some ways that's a lifetime of difference.
Anyway...I'm straying from my point. Connecting with someone closer to your age is preferable for understandable reasons...but it really is so much more than that. Ask some of your friends in relationships with women near their own age. I bet they don't have too much more to say on a positive note than you do.

I enjoyed the pics and saw your point. You've learned some useful things that have helped me too.


The real difficulty is in finding someone that you can eally connect with and trust with your feelings...

That supercedes age...
Thanks.
 

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My ex husband was 4 years older. Now I'm just not attracted to men older than myself anymore. The biggest age difference for me has been 10 years younger than me. I could have gone 18 years younger, but that was just too much of a difference for me.
 

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Me 30, she was 19.

When I think about it, I was already in college when she was just entering 1st grade... Wow.
 

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Originally posted by jond
It seems to me that its ALWAYS socially okay to date 21+ year olds, but as I'm getting ready to turn 30 in a few weeks, the age difference seems pretty big.

Whats the biggest age difference you've had when going out with a chick?
The biggest age difference for me has been 20 yrs. I was 23, they were 43. Never dated them though(as both women were one nighters), except for one, kinda.

The oldest I can say that I've actually "dated", was 36. I was 24 at the time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When I was 35 I met a girl working in a bar. (Thought she was in her early 20's (supposed to be 21 to work in a bar). Found out years later she was 15 with a fake ID.
 

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I'm 43, and over the summer, dated a 24 year old. It was fun, but also kinda wierd. The physical thing was fun, but we had little in common, besides enjoying sex with each other.
 

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43 and she is 25, same as the other guy said, apart from the gorgeous body and sex theres not a lot else to it......
 

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I'm 31 now, been seeing a 20 year old the past few months.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I may hold the record here. I'm 49 and the girl I have been
dating is 22. ( I pass for 36, believe it or not) but she knew
my age and didn't care. I screwed up and fell in love with
her and this has pretty much scared her off.

I am old enough to know better.

RC
 
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Originally posted by MFinnegan

Though I am SURE AS HELL not gonna complain about hooking up with younger women, Ive got to say the scenario with the older woman was much more 'educational'.
Educational in what sense? You learnt a lot or learnt that you dont want to deal with older gals?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Spartan

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Good question
Me 34...she 45ish (still wont tell me) HB9.5 blonde. Slim, sexy, fun and looks in her 30's. Got more stamina than the younger women and knows exactly how she likes it. ;) lol
 

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Originally posted by Spartan
Me 34...she 45ish (still wont tell me) HB9.5 blonde. Slim, sexy, fun and looks in her 30's. Got more stamina than the younger women and knows exactly how she likes it. ;) lol
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
 

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Me:34 Her:26 - she 8yrs younger - current squeeze

Me:26 Her:17 - Those were the days

Me:32 Her:44 - A little mature slvt - loved to swallow.
 

penkitten

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Originally posted by stevera004
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
sure they can..
when you get 45 dont you think you will still be hot?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by stevera004
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
You should get out more, you have no idea what you're missing...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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