"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Age Difference -- Whats biggest difference you've had?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
JustTheSt8tAlcohol
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I can understand and agree with just about everything you said here. Unfortunately, older women...although seemingly more settled...are that way for a lot of reasons...many of the reasons are not necessarily good. As women get older...they generally don't get better looking. A lot of the settling they do has a lot to do with fewer opportunities in terms of being approached by men...and also the weariness that comes from all the responsibilities of adult life. The mortgage, children...so forth and so on.
This is perhaps why I've read several other posts regarding older women being easy. I've actually heard this a lot...and understand it. I am not saying that this is true all the time...but there is some truth to it for the reasons I listed above. Please don't be offended (anyone). I just want to be honest in my opinions and support my perceptions. So although they do tend to be more stable they are also a lot more set in their ways and less receptive to change...whether it be good or bad. Their are pro's and con's to dating both older and younger women.
I am not speaking against older women...but perhaps instead making the point that age and other superficial qualities in and of themselves really aren't determining factors for much of anything. I think, more importantly, it can be difficult to find someone that is on the same wave legnth as yourself. I agree with the statement that really, anything more than a decade is kind of excessive. You see, at 10 years...you two can share some of the same memories...when the other person was born you were still a child, or vice versa. I find it difficult to comprehend relationships where there is as much as 2 decades between two people. One person was a full grown adult when the other was just coming into this world. In some ways that's a lifetime of difference.
Anyway...I'm straying from my point. Connecting with someone closer to your age is preferable for understandable reasons...but it really is so much more than that. Ask some of your friends in relationships with women near their own age. I bet they don't have too much more to say on a positive note than you do.
I enjoyed the pics and saw your point. You've learned some useful things that have helped me too.
The real difficulty is in finding someone that you can eally connect with and trust with your feelings...
That supercedes age...
Thanks.
The biggest age difference for me has been 20 yrs. I was 23, they were 43. Never dated them though(as both women were one nighters), except for one, kinda.
The oldest I can say that I've actually "dated", was 36. I was 24 at the time.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Good_ol_boy
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earthshyne
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Her, older by 8 yrs
englishman
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Gangster Of Love
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
-HPNOTIQ-
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at 24 she was 31
dating is 22. ( I pass for 36, believe it or not) but she knew
my age and didn't care. I screwed up and fell in love with
her and this has pretty much scared her off.
I am old enough to know better.
RC
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al77
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Educational in what sense? You learnt a lot or learnt that you dont want to deal with older gals?
Aztec
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Spartan
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Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...Originally posted by Spartan
Me 34...she 45ish (still wont tell me) HB9.5 blonde. Slim, sexy, fun and looks in her 30's. Got more stamina than the younger women and knows exactly how she likes it.
NewMan
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Me:26 Her:17 - Those were the days
Me:32 Her:44 - A little mature slvt - loved to swallow.
penkitten
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sure they can..
when you get 45 dont you think you will still be hot?
Francisco d'Anconia
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You should get out more, you have no idea what you're missing...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.