That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by Metaphysikal_Lover
major break ups have a way of aging you.
taken weeks before I dumped young ****:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/chriscraig3.jpg
I was still getting carded at 43.
taken a few months ago:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/CROPPEDHEADSHOT1.jpg
I've aged from what folks thought was 29 to late 30's.
I say find the right match in age and
personality.
The biggest age difference for me has been 20 yrs. I was 23, they were 43. Never dated them though(as both women were one nighters), except for one, kinda.Originally posted by jond
It seems to me that its ALWAYS socially okay to date 21+ year olds, but as I'm getting ready to turn 30 in a few weeks, the age difference seems pretty big.
Whats the biggest age difference you've had when going out with a chick?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Educational in what sense? You learnt a lot or learnt that you dont want to deal with older gals?Originally posted by MFinnegan
Though I am SURE AS HELL not gonna complain about hooking up with younger women, Ive got to say the scenario with the older woman was much more 'educational'.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...Originally posted by Spartan
Me 34...she 45ish (still wont tell me) HB9.5 blonde. Slim, sexy, fun and looks in her 30's. Got more stamina than the younger women and knows exactly how she likes it.lol
sure they can..Originally posted by stevera004
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
You should get out more, you have no idea what you're missing...Originally posted by stevera004
Give your head a shake ... 45 y.o. women cannot be HB9.5s ...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.