Hi. I recently broke up with my gf or 1.5 years. It's been hard on me but I'm getting over it. There is one girl I met last night at a friends. She's 17, ran away from home, about to join the Army. I know I can have a chance with her, I just messed up last night. Had one to many drinks and was very unsocial. I just couldn't know what to talk to her about. I've never met someone in the situation she's in so I had nothing really to say, other than small talk. Any suggestions if I can get to see her again?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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- Thread starter xenten
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MacAvoy
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CAPTAIN SAV A' HOJMooney5115 said:There is one girl I met last night at a friends. She's 17, ran away from home, about to join the Army. I know I can have a chance with her,
MacAvoy
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Reborn said:Ask yourself if that kind of girl is really someone you'd want to have in your life.
But SHE'S HOT. Whether she's a psycho is irrelevant.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
..then you answered your own question.JMooney5115 said:MacAvoy is right on the ball. I'm not looking for a relationship right now. If I were she wouldn't be in the top 20.
what you say to her is really irrelevant. you dont care what she thinks about you or what happens, you are looking for just a good time. tell her that, enjoy yourself, and see what happens.
MacAvoy
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DavenJuan said:what you say to her is really irrelevant. you dont care what she thinks about you or what happens, you are looking for just a good time. tell her that, enjoy yourself, and see what happens.
Great advice.
DavenJuan said:what you say to her is really irrelevant. you dont care what she thinks about you or what happens
That's the missing link that has been in my game. Great advice. I need to put this towards girl as well.