Hi. I recently broke up with my gf or 1.5 years. It's been hard on me but I'm getting over it. There is one girl I met last night at a friends. She's 17, ran away from home, about to join the Army. I know I can have a chance with her, I just messed up last night. Had one to many drinks and was very unsocial. I just couldn't know what to talk to her about. I've never met someone in the situation she's in so I had nothing really to say, other than small talk. Any suggestions if I can get to see her again?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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- Thread starter xenten
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MacAvoy
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CAPTAIN SAV A' HOJMooney5115 said:There is one girl I met last night at a friends. She's 17, ran away from home, about to join the Army. I know I can have a chance with her,
MacAvoy
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Reborn said:Ask yourself if that kind of girl is really someone you'd want to have in your life.
But SHE'S HOT. Whether she's a psycho is irrelevant.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
..then you answered your own question.JMooney5115 said:MacAvoy is right on the ball. I'm not looking for a relationship right now. If I were she wouldn't be in the top 20.
what you say to her is really irrelevant. you dont care what she thinks about you or what happens, you are looking for just a good time. tell her that, enjoy yourself, and see what happens.
MacAvoy
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DavenJuan said:what you say to her is really irrelevant. you dont care what she thinks about you or what happens, you are looking for just a good time. tell her that, enjoy yourself, and see what happens.
Great advice.
DavenJuan said:what you say to her is really irrelevant. you dont care what she thinks about you or what happens
That's the missing link that has been in my game. Great advice. I need to put this towards girl as well.