"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
advice for first time ****ing?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
have fun, explore...and thats about it
If your a virgin and shes not (and your embarrased by it\havent told her), have some beers or some wine before you ****, that way you can last looong, and learn more from the experience
Alcohol prolongs fukcing?Ostepop said:How old are you? Do you have reasonable alchohol tolerance?
If your a virgin and shes not (and your embarrased by it\havent told her), have some beers or some wine before you ****, that way you can last looong, and learn more from the experience
SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
Depends on the intake, to much alcohol will cause impotence, this has never happend to me so im guessing you have to be really really really really drunk.Alkali said:
If i go to bed with a girl after 4 glasses of whine i can **** the sh*t out of her for hours. I have no idea why this happends, but you definately get fake sexstamina out of alcohol, as long as you dont over do it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
thatguyjamalx
Don Juan
That $hit is hard to live down.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
so you didnt do it yet?
i guess when i read this a while ago i thought you were going to soon. youre just getting info for when it does happen?
just dont worry about it man. sex is natural. if you stress youll screw it up. just throw on some good tunes, take it slow. make your first a special time.
Agreed, it's one of the most natural things humans do...provided the inhibitions are removed. If you focus on what you want out of it, you'll be a LOT less nervous. And from what I've gathered, many women prefer that over the guy who is too worried about pleasing them to get into that natural rythem. Know what pleases a woman.....pay attention to how her body reacts as you go about your business......and make sure she is wet down there.Supremo said:
Cheers!"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
canadianmetalhead
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Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
no pun intended