"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
advice for first time ****ing?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
have fun, explore...and thats about it
If your a virgin and shes not (and your embarrased by it\havent told her), have some beers or some wine before you ****, that way you can last looong, and learn more from the experience
Alcohol prolongs fukcing?Ostepop said:How old are you? Do you have reasonable alchohol tolerance?
If your a virgin and shes not (and your embarrased by it\havent told her), have some beers or some wine before you ****, that way you can last looong, and learn more from the experience
SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
Depends on the intake, to much alcohol will cause impotence, this has never happend to me so im guessing you have to be really really really really drunk.Alkali said:
If i go to bed with a girl after 4 glasses of whine i can **** the sh*t out of her for hours. I have no idea why this happends, but you definately get fake sexstamina out of alcohol, as long as you dont over do it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
thatguyjamalx
Don Juan
That $hit is hard to live down.
Supremo
Senior Don Juan
so you didnt do it yet?
i guess when i read this a while ago i thought you were going to soon. youre just getting info for when it does happen?
just dont worry about it man. sex is natural. if you stress youll screw it up. just throw on some good tunes, take it slow. make your first a special time.
Agreed, it's one of the most natural things humans do...provided the inhibitions are removed. If you focus on what you want out of it, you'll be a LOT less nervous. And from what I've gathered, many women prefer that over the guy who is too worried about pleasing them to get into that natural rythem. Know what pleases a woman.....pay attention to how her body reacts as you go about your business......and make sure she is wet down there.Supremo said:
Cheers!"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
canadianmetalhead
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Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
no pun intended