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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand.Originally posted by m4a1
When people get off topic, their posts should be deleted.
Uhm no its not?Originally posted by m4a1
It's just a click of a button
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Frankly that line is to small and insignigicant for me to dwell over.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Vincent...it's okay to remove off topic posts from threads in any of the specific topic related forums...especially if it gets out of hand. It's not hard to do, but you would need the help of the members to find them all. If you ask people to report the off topic posts that derail a thread then it will be easy to find them and not much work at all to delete them. "Anything Else" should be the exception, however, because that is the one area that has always been pretty laid back and where people can just post things not related to the site subject matter.
There is a difference between justifiable deletions and uncalled for "overzealous" censorship.
Vincent, that's the wrong attitude to have. Some of the best threads with the most to gain from are the most controversial ones. By closing threads you give trolls all the power. For as long as this site has existed there have been groups of women from feminist sites and other boards who have come here to troll and disrupt. You can't allow trolls and badly behaved people to control the content available to the people who come to this site to get help. This is part of the reason I've been so vocal about censorship. Most of the problems that arise for the moderators are caused by trolls (often women from other sites) who want nothing more than to see this site fall into ruin. Don't be their tool.Originally posted by Vincent
Frankly that line is to small and insignigicant for me to dwell over.
If a thread has been derailed, I will close it. 'nuff said.
Yeah, that's what I was getting at.Vincent, that's the wrong attitude to have. Some of the best threads with the most to gain from are the most controversial ones. By closing threads you give trolls all the power.
I'd rather not get into yet another argument about this overall issue. It's very important, though, because it has a tremendous impact on the quality of the site. And yes, I have to agree with you that SOME (not all) of the moderators are guilty of taking threads off topic as well as starting flame wars. Although I've seen Vincent argue a little bit here and there, and he made some unfair deletions, he can be reasoned with if you talk to him rationally. Unfortunately, there are some moderators who are just beyond reasoning with and only want to fight and argue rather than actually listen to valid complaints. I really don't think Vincent is one of those, at least not from what I've seen so far.Originally posted by m4a1
Yeah, that's what I was getting at.
But apparently, Sir Arrogant Vincent doesn't want people like us telling him how to do his job.
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"Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand."
"I love it how people decided they know how to do our jobs for us though."
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Perhaps you shouldn't have volunteered to be a mod then, if you can't be arsed to actually do any work.Originally posted by Vincent
Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand.
What the hell you talking about, I do more work than almost every mod here, except maybe eternal. Please refrain from making ignorant comments.Originally posted by WesCottII
Perhaps you shouldn't have volunteered to be a mod then, if you can't be arsed to actually do any work.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'm already drunk so don't blame meOriginally posted by Eternal
PS - Why are people whining about this on a Saturday Night? Do you people really have no life?
That wasn't me, it was M41a (sp)Originally posted by Eternal
You say you modded at a site with as many members (give or take) as this one.
We have this amazing tool where they can do that on their own. Its called the search feature, No one seams to use it. So a simple "Do a search, Thread closed" is far easier.Originally posted by Blue Phoenix
I'm tired to see the "same" posts over and over! Things like "****y and funny"/ "eye contact"/"she LJBFed me but says she likes me"/....
Why don't moderators redirect the person to the pas thread and close his new tread immediately? I'd be effective!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.