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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand.Originally posted by m4a1
When people get off topic, their posts should be deleted.
Uhm no its not?Originally posted by m4a1
It's just a click of a button
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Frankly that line is to small and insignigicant for me to dwell over.Originally posted by Wyldfire
Vincent...it's okay to remove off topic posts from threads in any of the specific topic related forums...especially if it gets out of hand. It's not hard to do, but you would need the help of the members to find them all. If you ask people to report the off topic posts that derail a thread then it will be easy to find them and not much work at all to delete them. "Anything Else" should be the exception, however, because that is the one area that has always been pretty laid back and where people can just post things not related to the site subject matter.
There is a difference between justifiable deletions and uncalled for "overzealous" censorship.
Vincent, that's the wrong attitude to have. Some of the best threads with the most to gain from are the most controversial ones. By closing threads you give trolls all the power. For as long as this site has existed there have been groups of women from feminist sites and other boards who have come here to troll and disrupt. You can't allow trolls and badly behaved people to control the content available to the people who come to this site to get help. This is part of the reason I've been so vocal about censorship. Most of the problems that arise for the moderators are caused by trolls (often women from other sites) who want nothing more than to see this site fall into ruin. Don't be their tool.Originally posted by Vincent
Frankly that line is to small and insignigicant for me to dwell over.
If a thread has been derailed, I will close it. 'nuff said.
Yeah, that's what I was getting at.Vincent, that's the wrong attitude to have. Some of the best threads with the most to gain from are the most controversial ones. By closing threads you give trolls all the power.
I'd rather not get into yet another argument about this overall issue. It's very important, though, because it has a tremendous impact on the quality of the site. And yes, I have to agree with you that SOME (not all) of the moderators are guilty of taking threads off topic as well as starting flame wars. Although I've seen Vincent argue a little bit here and there, and he made some unfair deletions, he can be reasoned with if you talk to him rationally. Unfortunately, there are some moderators who are just beyond reasoning with and only want to fight and argue rather than actually listen to valid complaints. I really don't think Vincent is one of those, at least not from what I've seen so far.Originally posted by m4a1
Yeah, that's what I was getting at.
But apparently, Sir Arrogant Vincent doesn't want people like us telling him how to do his job.
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"Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand."
"I love it how people decided they know how to do our jobs for us though."
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Perhaps you shouldn't have volunteered to be a mod then, if you can't be arsed to actually do any work.Originally posted by Vincent
Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand.
What the hell you talking about, I do more work than almost every mod here, except maybe eternal. Please refrain from making ignorant comments.Originally posted by WesCottII
Perhaps you shouldn't have volunteered to be a mod then, if you can't be arsed to actually do any work.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I'm already drunk so don't blame meOriginally posted by Eternal
PS - Why are people whining about this on a Saturday Night? Do you people really have no life?
That wasn't me, it was M41a (sp)Originally posted by Eternal
You say you modded at a site with as many members (give or take) as this one.
We have this amazing tool where they can do that on their own. Its called the search feature, No one seams to use it. So a simple "Do a search, Thread closed" is far easier.Originally posted by Blue Phoenix
I'm tired to see the "same" posts over and over! Things like "****y and funny"/ "eye contact"/"she LJBFed me but says she likes me"/....
Why don't moderators redirect the person to the pas thread and close his new tread immediately? I'd be effective!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.