diablo
Master Don Juan
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
About some of the posts:
- Thread starter Metaphysikal_Lover
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
m4a1
Senior Don Juan
What makes you assume I don't?
I was a moderator on a big forum once, it has almost as many members as this site, for about 6 months straight.
It's just a click of a button, and that's why there are about 4 moderators for every forum. So if every moderator deleted 1/4 of those posts, it would be a better place.
But hey, moderators are also the ones involved in those posts, you can't solve the problem when you're part of it.
I was a moderator on a big forum once, it has almost as many members as this site, for about 6 months straight.
It's just a click of a button, and that's why there are about 4 moderators for every forum. So if every moderator deleted 1/4 of those posts, it would be a better place.
But hey, moderators are also the ones involved in those posts, you can't solve the problem when you're part of it.
Uhm no its not?
Plus theres always the fact that not all posts are completely derailing the threads, some are involved with the original topic. If we close them we'll get b*tched at, If we leave them open, we get b*tched at.
I love it how people decided they know how to do our jobs for us though.
Vincent...it's okay to remove off topic posts from threads in any of the specific topic related forums...especially if it gets out of hand. It's not hard to do, but you would need the help of the members to find them all. If you ask people to report the off topic posts that derail a thread then it will be easy to find them and not much work at all to delete them. "Anything Else" should be the exception, however, because that is the one area that has always been pretty laid back and where people can just post things not related to the site subject matter.
There is a difference between justifiable deletions and uncalled for "overzealous" censorship.
There is a difference between justifiable deletions and uncalled for "overzealous" censorship.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Hollowpoint
Master Don Juan
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Go check my last hundred or so posts, your idea is OLD! 
Find the one where I suggested him to commit suicide, that was pretty funny.
Find the one where I suggested him to commit suicide, that was pretty funny.
Vincent, that's the wrong attitude to have. Some of the best threads with the most to gain from are the most controversial ones. By closing threads you give trolls all the power. For as long as this site has existed there have been groups of women from feminist sites and other boards who have come here to troll and disrupt. You can't allow trolls and badly behaved people to control the content available to the people who come to this site to get help. This is part of the reason I've been so vocal about censorship. Most of the problems that arise for the moderators are caused by trolls (often women from other sites) who want nothing more than to see this site fall into ruin. Don't be their tool.
m4a1
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, that's what I was getting at.
But apparently, Sir Arrogant Vincent doesn't want people like us telling him how to do his job.
QUOTE:
"Do you know how big of a pain in the ass it is to delete individual posts? Oh wait, you don't, so please don't suggest things you don't understand."
"I love it how people decided they know how to do our jobs for us though."
I'd rather not get into yet another argument about this overall issue. It's very important, though, because it has a tremendous impact on the quality of the site. And yes, I have to agree with you that SOME (not all) of the moderators are guilty of taking threads off topic as well as starting flame wars. Although I've seen Vincent argue a little bit here and there, and he made some unfair deletions, he can be reasoned with if you talk to him rationally. Unfortunately, there are some moderators who are just beyond reasoning with and only want to fight and argue rather than actually listen to valid complaints. I really don't think Vincent is one of those, at least not from what I've seen so far.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Oh. My. God.
Can't you people just live and let live? It's over! Go home! There's nothing more to discuss! Geez... Saturday night and all I see is bickering... don't you all have something more constructive you could be doing? Please don't answer that - just drop it already.
Can't you people just live and let live? It's over! Go home! There's nothing more to discuss! Geez... Saturday night and all I see is bickering... don't you all have something more constructive you could be doing? Please don't answer that - just drop it already.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Perhaps you shouldn't have volunteered to be a mod then, if you can't be arsed to actually do any work.
WesCotII - I notice that you just came and jumped into the converstation. Are you a former member here? If so, what's the old name? You say you modded at a site with as many members (give or take) as this one. I'm sure you understood how hard it was to be a mod. How many mods where there? More than sosuave? Less? If more, then remember...That meant that more mods were doing work which meant less crappy posts. There are 12 moderators on this site, but not all of them mod all the forums. Therefore, things go unnoticed. That is why "report this post to a moderator" button exists. Makes things easier so things get done quicker.
If no one here knows what it is like to mod this place, please don't tell us how to do our job. Moderators are unpaid, so don't think we are on power trips AND collecting money.
PS - Why are people whining about this on a Saturday Night? Do you people really have no life?
If no one here knows what it is like to mod this place, please don't tell us how to do our job. Moderators are unpaid, so don't think we are on power trips AND collecting money.
PS - Why are people whining about this on a Saturday Night? Do you people really have no life?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
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I'm tired to see the "same" posts over and over! Things like "****y and funny"/ "eye contact"/"she LJBFed me but says she likes me"/....
Why don't moderators redirect the person to the pas thread and close his new tread immediately? I'd be effective!
Or
The new thread should be merged with the past one!
Simple isn't?
Why don't moderators redirect the person to the pas thread and close his new tread immediately? I'd be effective!
Or
The new thread should be merged with the past one!
Simple isn't?
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
That wasn't me, it was M41a (sp)
m4a1 - I notice that you just came and jumped into the converstation. Are you a former member here? If so, what's the old name? You say you modded at a site with as many members (give or take) as this one. I'm sure you understood how hard it was to be a mod. How many mods where there? More than sosuave? Less? If more, then remember...That meant that more mods were doing work which meant less crappy posts. There are 12 moderators on this site, but not all of them mod all the forums. Therefore, things go unnoticed. That is why "report this post to a moderator" button exists. Makes things easier so things get done quicker.
If no one here knows what it is like to mod this place, please don't tell us how to do our job. Moderators are unpaid, so don't think we are on power trips AND collecting money.
FIXED
If no one here knows what it is like to mod this place, please don't tell us how to do our job. Moderators are unpaid, so don't think we are on power trips AND collecting money.
FIXED
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.