"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aaron Clarey: Short Men Must Go Overseas

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Even 5'10" in the USA is not a good height. Women have been programmed to seek 6'0"+. 5'9"/5'10" is not desired, though it's passable in many circumstances.
 

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Even 5'10" in the USA is not a good height. Women have been programmed to seek 6'0"+. 5'9"/5'10" is not desired, though it's passable in many circumstances.
I bet you that the majority of women could not even show how tall 5'10 or 6' is with any accuracy.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Height > Face according to me

@Mike32ct always says The Big 3 are height, hair, and money.
Height and Hair are important for dating, sex, and reproduction. Money only starts to matter when a woman loses her sex appeal; i.e. becomes menopausal, or already has kids.

Generally, not speaking in extremes, as long as a man is taller than her, a woman will prefer a full set of thick hair over height. A woman will likely take a 5'9, 5'10 man with great hair slicked back, over a 6'1 man who is losing his hair. Now if the 6'1 decides to shave his head, then it is a different ballgame, but I still think women will take the hair over height.

In Entertainment; movies, music, etc, audiences would prefer to see *a little* shorter man with great hair, than a taller man who is bald or losing his hair. Now someone is going to come in and say "but this guy, this guy, this guy." I am speaking "in general terms"

Once you get shorter than 5'9, 5'8, or over 6'2, 6'3, then the ballgame changes again.
 

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Height and Hair are important for dating, sex, and reproduction. Money only starts to matter when a woman loses her sex appeal; i.e. becomes menopausal, or already has kids.
I've believed that looks are more important than money for 20 something men pursuing 20 something women.

In general, when men reach roughly age 35, money becomes a bigger part of the attraction equation. When men reach ages 35-40, they are typically dealing with women close to their own ages, so your idea that money matters when a woman loses her sex appeal has some merit.

I think that money matters for large age gap relationships, like a 30 something man who is roughly 10+ years older than a 20 something woman. I think that money can matter to prime age or near prime age women (18-29 year olds) in these circumstances. There's also the sugar daddy - sugar baby trend on platforms like Seeking. I'm not fully aligned with you on the idea of money not mattering to the 18-29s as you seem to be.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think that money matters for large age gap relationships, like a 30 something man who is roughly 10+ years older than a 20 something woman. I think that money can matter to prime age or near prime age women (18-29 year olds) in these circumstances.
In order to get large gaps, money can make the difference. Think of a 38-42 year old man pursuing a 23-25 year old woman. The 25 year old woman can date plenty of 25-28 year old men. The 38-42 year old man can offer more money to the 23-25 year old woman than the 25-28 year old men. The difference in money can be strongly appealing in these circumstances. Great photos/videos for Instagram on lifestyle if she's on a boat, going on amazing vacations, etc.
 

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Sigh. Another thread about height. I’m barely 5’4” and I’ve banged more women than most of my friends. My current gf is taller then me and my last gf was taller then me. Short men can get women.
But how fat are these women you're banging? :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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