"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Aaron Clarey: Short Men Must Go Overseas

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Even 5'10" in the USA is not a good height. Women have been programmed to seek 6'0"+. 5'9"/5'10" is not desired, though it's passable in many circumstances.
 

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Even 5'10" in the USA is not a good height. Women have been programmed to seek 6'0"+. 5'9"/5'10" is not desired, though it's passable in many circumstances.
I bet you that the majority of women could not even show how tall 5'10 or 6' is with any accuracy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Height > Face according to me

@Mike32ct always says The Big 3 are height, hair, and money.
Height and Hair are important for dating, sex, and reproduction. Money only starts to matter when a woman loses her sex appeal; i.e. becomes menopausal, or already has kids.

Generally, not speaking in extremes, as long as a man is taller than her, a woman will prefer a full set of thick hair over height. A woman will likely take a 5'9, 5'10 man with great hair slicked back, over a 6'1 man who is losing his hair. Now if the 6'1 decides to shave his head, then it is a different ballgame, but I still think women will take the hair over height.

In Entertainment; movies, music, etc, audiences would prefer to see *a little* shorter man with great hair, than a taller man who is bald or losing his hair. Now someone is going to come in and say "but this guy, this guy, this guy." I am speaking "in general terms"

Once you get shorter than 5'9, 5'8, or over 6'2, 6'3, then the ballgame changes again.
 

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Height and Hair are important for dating, sex, and reproduction. Money only starts to matter when a woman loses her sex appeal; i.e. becomes menopausal, or already has kids.
I've believed that looks are more important than money for 20 something men pursuing 20 something women.

In general, when men reach roughly age 35, money becomes a bigger part of the attraction equation. When men reach ages 35-40, they are typically dealing with women close to their own ages, so your idea that money matters when a woman loses her sex appeal has some merit.

I think that money matters for large age gap relationships, like a 30 something man who is roughly 10+ years older than a 20 something woman. I think that money can matter to prime age or near prime age women (18-29 year olds) in these circumstances. There's also the sugar daddy - sugar baby trend on platforms like Seeking. I'm not fully aligned with you on the idea of money not mattering to the 18-29s as you seem to be.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think that money matters for large age gap relationships, like a 30 something man who is roughly 10+ years older than a 20 something woman. I think that money can matter to prime age or near prime age women (18-29 year olds) in these circumstances.
In order to get large gaps, money can make the difference. Think of a 38-42 year old man pursuing a 23-25 year old woman. The 25 year old woman can date plenty of 25-28 year old men. The 38-42 year old man can offer more money to the 23-25 year old woman than the 25-28 year old men. The difference in money can be strongly appealing in these circumstances. Great photos/videos for Instagram on lifestyle if she's on a boat, going on amazing vacations, etc.
 

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Sigh. Another thread about height. I’m barely 5’4” and I’ve banged more women than most of my friends. My current gf is taller then me and my last gf was taller then me. Short men can get women.
But how fat are these women you're banging? :rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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