Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Aaron Clarey: Short Men Must Go Overseas

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Even 5'10" in the USA is not a good height. Women have been programmed to seek 6'0"+. 5'9"/5'10" is not desired, though it's passable in many circumstances.
 

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Even 5'10" in the USA is not a good height. Women have been programmed to seek 6'0"+. 5'9"/5'10" is not desired, though it's passable in many circumstances.
I bet you that the majority of women could not even show how tall 5'10 or 6' is with any accuracy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Height > Face according to me

@Mike32ct always says The Big 3 are height, hair, and money.
Height and Hair are important for dating, sex, and reproduction. Money only starts to matter when a woman loses her sex appeal; i.e. becomes menopausal, or already has kids.

Generally, not speaking in extremes, as long as a man is taller than her, a woman will prefer a full set of thick hair over height. A woman will likely take a 5'9, 5'10 man with great hair slicked back, over a 6'1 man who is losing his hair. Now if the 6'1 decides to shave his head, then it is a different ballgame, but I still think women will take the hair over height.

In Entertainment; movies, music, etc, audiences would prefer to see *a little* shorter man with great hair, than a taller man who is bald or losing his hair. Now someone is going to come in and say "but this guy, this guy, this guy." I am speaking "in general terms"

Once you get shorter than 5'9, 5'8, or over 6'2, 6'3, then the ballgame changes again.
 

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Height and Hair are important for dating, sex, and reproduction. Money only starts to matter when a woman loses her sex appeal; i.e. becomes menopausal, or already has kids.
I've believed that looks are more important than money for 20 something men pursuing 20 something women.

In general, when men reach roughly age 35, money becomes a bigger part of the attraction equation. When men reach ages 35-40, they are typically dealing with women close to their own ages, so your idea that money matters when a woman loses her sex appeal has some merit.

I think that money matters for large age gap relationships, like a 30 something man who is roughly 10+ years older than a 20 something woman. I think that money can matter to prime age or near prime age women (18-29 year olds) in these circumstances. There's also the sugar daddy - sugar baby trend on platforms like Seeking. I'm not fully aligned with you on the idea of money not mattering to the 18-29s as you seem to be.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think that money matters for large age gap relationships, like a 30 something man who is roughly 10+ years older than a 20 something woman. I think that money can matter to prime age or near prime age women (18-29 year olds) in these circumstances.
In order to get large gaps, money can make the difference. Think of a 38-42 year old man pursuing a 23-25 year old woman. The 25 year old woman can date plenty of 25-28 year old men. The 38-42 year old man can offer more money to the 23-25 year old woman than the 25-28 year old men. The difference in money can be strongly appealing in these circumstances. Great photos/videos for Instagram on lifestyle if she's on a boat, going on amazing vacations, etc.
 

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Sigh. Another thread about height. I’m barely 5’4” and I’ve banged more women than most of my friends. My current gf is taller then me and my last gf was taller then me. Short men can get women.
But how fat are these women you're banging? :rolleyes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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