"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
a woman that cant make up her mind.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Unbridled_Phoenix
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Yes you do. If you havent done so already, do it now.Blown5.0 said:
If you dont speak to her in any other way, she will start using facebook to jab at you. Status updates, wall posts, etc. all will become ways she can use to either lure you back in or tear you down. Do it for your sanity.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i haven't seen or spoken to this chick in about 2 months...
i have heard from multiple people...she has been talking major **** about me...for unknown reasons, but she also has been talking to a good friend of mine...saying that i was a good guy and other good things about me BUT...that she made it clear of our relationship...that "I" just miss understood....I guess shes just trying to play it off...
last week...she asked me to come over to her place..that it had been awhile and she wanted to see me. I said no i was busy maybe some other time...she responded back pretty quick saying that she changed her mind that she was gonna have a party ( that never happened ) and i should come meet the new guy.....
is this just straight up BPD....trying to make me jealous..what?
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Blown5.0 said:
Either bat**** crazy or BPD. Not much difference IMO. Best solution is to get two really hot chicks to go over with you. Tell them to play it up with the touching and flirting so she'll leave you alone and bounce early with them. That will mess her up so bad. Then just go cold on her. Totally cold. Leave it simmer for weeks. If she can play these games then you can to, at least that's my take on it. Just know that nothing will ever happen between the two of you besides drama like this. There's no relationship material there
penkitten
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this sort of drama is going to kill all your brain cells.
all of them.
every last one of them.
until you can no longer function without the drama on a daily basis.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
apparently " shenanigans " is her word... other people aren't allowed to use it...lmao
that just tells me...she still checks up on me...and gets jealous...am i wrong?
sodbuster
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ive been having no contact with her...now shes resorted to hitting on a good friend of mine...on facebook. I doubt my friend would do anything with her...but still it hits a nerve!
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.