"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
a woman that cant make up her mind.
- Thread starter Blown5.0
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Unbridled_Phoenix
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 22, 2009
- Messages
- 677
- Reaction score
- 25
theunflushables
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 28, 2007
- Messages
- 1,104
- Reaction score
- 20
Yes you do. If you havent done so already, do it now.Blown5.0 said:
If you dont speak to her in any other way, she will start using facebook to jab at you. Status updates, wall posts, etc. all will become ways she can use to either lure you back in or tear you down. Do it for your sanity.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i haven't seen or spoken to this chick in about 2 months...
i have heard from multiple people...she has been talking major **** about me...for unknown reasons, but she also has been talking to a good friend of mine...saying that i was a good guy and other good things about me BUT...that she made it clear of our relationship...that "I" just miss understood....I guess shes just trying to play it off...
last week...she asked me to come over to her place..that it had been awhile and she wanted to see me. I said no i was busy maybe some other time...she responded back pretty quick saying that she changed her mind that she was gonna have a party ( that never happened ) and i should come meet the new guy.....
is this just straight up BPD....trying to make me jealous..what?
Nutz
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 22, 2008
- Messages
- 1,583
- Reaction score
- 72
Blown5.0 said:
Either bat**** crazy or BPD. Not much difference IMO. Best solution is to get two really hot chicks to go over with you. Tell them to play it up with the touching and flirting so she'll leave you alone and bounce early with them. That will mess her up so bad. Then just go cold on her. Totally cold. Leave it simmer for weeks. If she can play these games then you can to, at least that's my take on it. Just know that nothing will ever happen between the two of you besides drama like this. There's no relationship material there
penkitten
Master Don Juan
this sort of drama is going to kill all your brain cells.
all of them.
every last one of them.
until you can no longer function without the drama on a daily basis.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
apparently " shenanigans " is her word... other people aren't allowed to use it...lmao
that just tells me...she still checks up on me...and gets jealous...am i wrong?
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
ive been having no contact with her...now shes resorted to hitting on a good friend of mine...on facebook. I doubt my friend would do anything with her...but still it hits a nerve!
The Asian Lover
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 6, 2009
- Messages
- 96
- Reaction score
- 1
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.