"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
a woman that cant make up her mind.
- Thread starter Blown5.0
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Yes you do. If you havent done so already, do it now.Blown5.0 said:
If you dont speak to her in any other way, she will start using facebook to jab at you. Status updates, wall posts, etc. all will become ways she can use to either lure you back in or tear you down. Do it for your sanity.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
i haven't seen or spoken to this chick in about 2 months...
i have heard from multiple people...she has been talking major **** about me...for unknown reasons, but she also has been talking to a good friend of mine...saying that i was a good guy and other good things about me BUT...that she made it clear of our relationship...that "I" just miss understood....I guess shes just trying to play it off...
last week...she asked me to come over to her place..that it had been awhile and she wanted to see me. I said no i was busy maybe some other time...she responded back pretty quick saying that she changed her mind that she was gonna have a party ( that never happened ) and i should come meet the new guy.....
is this just straight up BPD....trying to make me jealous..what?
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Blown5.0 said:
Either bat**** crazy or BPD. Not much difference IMO. Best solution is to get two really hot chicks to go over with you. Tell them to play it up with the touching and flirting so she'll leave you alone and bounce early with them. That will mess her up so bad. Then just go cold on her. Totally cold. Leave it simmer for weeks. If she can play these games then you can to, at least that's my take on it. Just know that nothing will ever happen between the two of you besides drama like this. There's no relationship material there
penkitten
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this sort of drama is going to kill all your brain cells.
all of them.
every last one of them.
until you can no longer function without the drama on a daily basis.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
apparently " shenanigans " is her word... other people aren't allowed to use it...lmao
that just tells me...she still checks up on me...and gets jealous...am i wrong?
sodbuster
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ive been having no contact with her...now shes resorted to hitting on a good friend of mine...on facebook. I doubt my friend would do anything with her...but still it hits a nerve!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.