El Payaso
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Seems like the mainstream media is catching onto what we call monkey branching. http://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/20...to-fail-at-relationships-with-cushioning.html
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yup. Cuz these hos are quick to say "me and him aren't doing anything, he's just a friend"... or the classic line "he doesn't want me, he has a girlfriend"It's generally accepted that men can spin plates, but only until they have sex with one. Then they should commit.
Basically, men behaving like women is accepted.
Women don't generally sleep with all the guys they are dating - instead using some for validation/backups or whatever. Whereas men quite often do, or at least have the urge to.
Didn't know @Tenacity had a fox news accountThe word should not be cushining but "monkey branching" instead. Women today have no morals, values, standards nor intelligence. Women today are not worth messing with, not to mention the expense and problems they cause men. This is why more men every day are going MGTOW. If you do not know what that is, go to YouTube and type in MGTOW IS FREEDOM. Listen to John tell how totally worthless today's women really are. Men... don't get married or have children with any woman. Do not allow any woman to live in "your" house. Remain single and retain Freedom. Let these women grow old & fat completely alone, without any man's money and with only their worthless cats for companionship. All women today are nothing more than gold digging hoe's.
Sex shouldn't equal commitment, that has to go.It's generally accepted that men can spin plates, but only until they have sex with one. Then they should commit.
Basically, men behaving like women is accepted.
Women don't generally sleep with all the guys they are dating - instead using some for validation/backups or whatever. Whereas men quite often do, or at least have the urge to.
This is nothing new. They say millennials, women have always done this. Women never end a relationship until they are already in the next one. Gen x girls did this, baby boomer girls did this, this is women in generalSeems like the mainstream media is catching onto what we call monkey branching. http://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/20...to-fail-at-relationships-with-cushioning.html
And yet some people have the galls to shame and blast men for spinning plates when it was borne out of the fact that women are doing the exact same thing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Agreed, but previous générations would have a 1 guy focus and would stop until the relation goes south.... millenials.. have 3 or more minimun and than don't stop it "just in case"This is nothing new. They say millennials, women have always done this. Women never end a relationship until they are already in the next one. Gen x girls did this, baby boomer girls did this, this is women in general
Best PUA advice I ever got after the "just do it"I find that often, the manosphere merely refines the white-knight by creating this "80% low quality" nonsense.
Rather than just accept that women have needs that sometimes run contrary to our own, and just accept that.
It really is amusing when I spend about 14 months seriously gaming in an obsessive manner, and about 16 years having experience of seeing patterns repeat endlessly - only to have some prat disregard that with a simple NAWALT.
lol
Of course anyone's needs will sometimes run contrary to our own. But regarding your "low quality" remark, you can't deny that some women are worse than others. I suppose it depends what you're looking for. You're starting to sound like Tenacity here though. Too cynical. My experiences are not quite so bleak, and as much as I'm sure you would like to discount them, I have been on the planet longer than you have.I find that often, the manosphere merely refines the white-knight by creating this "80% low quality" nonsense.
Rather than just accept that women have needs that sometimes run contrary to our own, and just accept that.
TRUTH BOMBI honestly don't even think about red-flags. And I never have looked for a LTR in my life.
Yet, I find many good LTR options.
I don't think looking for one is the best way to get one![]()
I like your dad's attitude, that's pretty much the way I feel about it also. All this hand wringing that goes on in this forum can get a little hard to take at times.At least he didn't say "no, that's just the 80% low quality. What you need to do is draw up a list of red-flags, and then filter for a super special woman that isn't really even a woman in nature".
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Of course not. I wasn't born in an LTR, you know. I used to spin plates myself when I was younger, although I don't believe I was ever as dead set against relationships as you are. I was just wondering what you were referring to.You are assuming that only men who want LTR's have problems?
A very gross but candid description.Dating today is like hanging out on the set after Gangbang Girl and seeing which guy she wants to get a pizza with.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.