"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
A girl who doesn't reject or say yes.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No.Danny
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Case closed
Igetit!
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No you're not. You're only left to wonder if you're a chump or completely new to dating.Raymond said:
To me,the ABSENCE of a "yes" equals a "no".
When I walk into a room at night,I don't have to scratch my head wondering if the light switch is on or not,it's pretty apparent.
You asked a girl out,she DIDN'T say yes. THAT'S your answer.
It means NO.
There's no further action necessary........on to the next chick.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Anything other than an enthusiastic "yes" is a rejection.Raymond said:
Redwood
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I give a woman ONE strike. If I get a variant of maybe, I walk away and don't look back. Why the f**k do men keep chasing disinterest?
In shorter form:
Yes with actions to back it up=yes
Anything else=no
Case closed...again.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I would really argue that. Most girls can play the game and pretend they are not interested. ESPECIALLY at the beginning.Redwood said:
You have to have the mentality of a closer, meaning, assume she's down and go for it.
Just like in sales, if they haven't hung up the phone or haven't left the store it means they are still on the fence and its your job to pull them in until they leave.
They are looking for excuses not to, so you want to give them reasons to say yes.
Lotus Effect
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But the real truth is how does this affect you??
If it was from a girl you've never met, it wouldn't matter at all I suppose.
So all of this, is because this particular girl's opinion, matter to you, which shouldn't.
You should get to a point that this means nothing to you. Paradoxically, and ironically, when you get to that point (of not giving a sh*t) is when you'll get less of this behaviour!
EDIT: Really great stuff on your signature Igetit!
VladPatton
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Lotus Effect said:
Of course it affects you. It affects the direction you'll be going, based on her answer, plain and simple. If she says yes, it's game on, if she says anything else, it's a Next. It shouldn't affect you too much emotionally, though. Yeah, it sucks big hairy ballsacs, but you have no choice but to move on. When you continue to chase like a puppy without a clue, then you're FUBARed and your problems start.
Lotus Effect
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The same way as I agree with everyone else on the matter!
Anything but a yes is a no.
I just added another point on the subject, instead of keep on saying the obvious, which by the tenth reply, he must have understood!
I just wanted to bring the "it shouldn't affect you emotionally" point to the table!
Chill out! We are on the same page mate.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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