"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A girl who doesn't reject or say yes.
- Thread starter Raymond
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
No.Danny
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Igetit!
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No you're not. You're only left to wonder if you're a chump or completely new to dating.Raymond said:
To me,the ABSENCE of a "yes" equals a "no".
When I walk into a room at night,I don't have to scratch my head wondering if the light switch is on or not,it's pretty apparent.
You asked a girl out,she DIDN'T say yes. THAT'S your answer.
It means NO.
There's no further action necessary........on to the next chick.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Anything other than an enthusiastic "yes" is a rejection.Raymond said:
Redwood
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I give a woman ONE strike. If I get a variant of maybe, I walk away and don't look back. Why the f**k do men keep chasing disinterest?
In shorter form:
Yes with actions to back it up=yes
Anything else=no
Case closed...again.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I would really argue that. Most girls can play the game and pretend they are not interested. ESPECIALLY at the beginning.Redwood said:
You have to have the mentality of a closer, meaning, assume she's down and go for it.
Just like in sales, if they haven't hung up the phone or haven't left the store it means they are still on the fence and its your job to pull them in until they leave.
They are looking for excuses not to, so you want to give them reasons to say yes.
Lotus Effect
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But the real truth is how does this affect you??
If it was from a girl you've never met, it wouldn't matter at all I suppose.
So all of this, is because this particular girl's opinion, matter to you, which shouldn't.
You should get to a point that this means nothing to you. Paradoxically, and ironically, when you get to that point (of not giving a sh*t) is when you'll get less of this behaviour!
EDIT: Really great stuff on your signature Igetit!
VladPatton
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Lotus Effect said:
Of course it affects you. It affects the direction you'll be going, based on her answer, plain and simple. If she says yes, it's game on, if she says anything else, it's a Next. It shouldn't affect you too much emotionally, though. Yeah, it sucks big hairy ballsacs, but you have no choice but to move on. When you continue to chase like a puppy without a clue, then you're FUBARed and your problems start.
Lotus Effect
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The same way as I agree with everyone else on the matter!
Anything but a yes is a no.
I just added another point on the subject, instead of keep on saying the obvious, which by the tenth reply, he must have understood!
I just wanted to bring the "it shouldn't affect you emotionally" point to the table!
Chill out! We are on the same page mate.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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