"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A girl who doesn't reject or say yes.

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So basically you're left to wonder yes or no.

What do you supposed it means? What will be your actions?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Attention *****. Stringing along
Case closed
 

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Raymond said:
So basically you're left to wonder yes or no.
No you're not. You're only left to wonder if you're a chump or completely new to dating.

To me,the ABSENCE of a "yes" equals a "no".

When I walk into a room at night,I don't have to scratch my head wondering if the light switch is on or not,it's pretty apparent.

You asked a girl out,she DIDN'T say yes. THAT'S your answer.



What do you supposed it means?

It means NO.



What will be your actions?
There's no further action necessary........on to the next chick.
 

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^^^^Little to add to that. Women are maximally indirect when it comes to turning someone down as they don't want the situation to become awkward or they don't want to hurt you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A girl who doesn't reject or say yes.
She is using you for validation. Each time she thinks you are about to walk away she will flirt a little to get you hooked again. The cycle continues until she gets bored of you or you figure out what is going on.
 

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Raymond said:
So basically you're left to wonder yes or no.

What do you supposed it means? What will be your actions?
Anything other than an enthusiastic "yes" is a rejection.
 

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Ambiguous answers are definitely a no. Trust me, if a girl wants to meet you, she'll claw and scratch her way through ANYTHING.
 

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AFAIC if it's not an enthusiastic yes with actions to back it up, it's a rejection. It really is that simple.

I give a woman ONE strike. If I get a variant of maybe, I walk away and don't look back. Why the f**k do men keep chasing disinterest?

In shorter form:

Yes with actions to back it up=yes
Anything else=no

Case closed...again.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Redwood said:
Ambiguous answers are definitely a no. Trust me, if a girl wants to meet you, she'll claw and scratch her way through ANYTHING.
I would really argue that. Most girls can play the game and pretend they are not interested. ESPECIALLY at the beginning.

You have to have the mentality of a closer, meaning, assume she's down and go for it.
Just like in sales, if they haven't hung up the phone or haven't left the store it means they are still on the fence and its your job to pull them in until they leave.

They are looking for excuses not to, so you want to give them reasons to say yes.
 

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It is all great advice, and it is all truth! Bokanovsky, nismo, Redwood, PairPlus, Igetit!... Even hudpes and No.Danny. All correct!

But the real truth is how does this affect you??

If it was from a girl you've never met, it wouldn't matter at all I suppose.

So all of this, is because this particular girl's opinion, matter to you, which shouldn't.

You should get to a point that this means nothing to you. Paradoxically, and ironically, when you get to that point (of not giving a sh*t) is when you'll get less of this behaviour!

EDIT: Really great stuff on your signature Igetit!
 

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Lotus Effect said:
It is all great advice, and it is all truth! Bokanovsky, nismo, Redwood, PairPlus, Igetit!... Even hudpes and No.Danny. All correct!

But the real truth is how does this affect you??

If it was from a girl you've never met, it wouldn't matter at all I suppose.

So all of this, is because this particular girl's opinion, matter to you, which shouldn't.

You should get to a point that this means nothing to you. Paradoxically, and ironically, when you get to that point (of not giving a sh*t) is when you'll get less of this behaviour!

EDIT: Really great stuff on your signature Igetit!

Of course it affects you. It affects the direction you'll be going, based on her answer, plain and simple. If she says yes, it's game on, if she says anything else, it's a Next. It shouldn't affect you too much emotionally, though. Yeah, it sucks big hairy ballsacs, but you have no choice but to move on. When you continue to chase like a puppy without a clue, then you're FUBARed and your problems start.
 

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Yeah, I agree with you Vlad.

The same way as I agree with everyone else on the matter!
Anything but a yes is a no.

I just added another point on the subject, instead of keep on saying the obvious, which by the tenth reply, he must have understood!

I just wanted to bring the "it shouldn't affect you emotionally" point to the table!

Chill out! We are on the same page mate. :up:
 

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Just advice. I met a girl who seemed interested, but one day she suddenly ignored my text. I next'd her immediately and didn't even bother to ask her why. She was in my class and it was awkward when I saw her everyday, but I pretended like nothing happened.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's a no in womenese.
 

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Anything but YES is a NO. I used to just next but now I ping a few times for lulz and the chance to hear new excuses then ignore after
 
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