"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
A girl who doesn't reject or say yes.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
No.Danny
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No you're not. You're only left to wonder if you're a chump or completely new to dating.Raymond said:
To me,the ABSENCE of a "yes" equals a "no".
When I walk into a room at night,I don't have to scratch my head wondering if the light switch is on or not,it's pretty apparent.
You asked a girl out,she DIDN'T say yes. THAT'S your answer.
It means NO.
There's no further action necessary........on to the next chick.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Anything other than an enthusiastic "yes" is a rejection.Raymond said:
Redwood
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I give a woman ONE strike. If I get a variant of maybe, I walk away and don't look back. Why the f**k do men keep chasing disinterest?
In shorter form:
Yes with actions to back it up=yes
Anything else=no
Case closed...again.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I would really argue that. Most girls can play the game and pretend they are not interested. ESPECIALLY at the beginning.Redwood said:
You have to have the mentality of a closer, meaning, assume she's down and go for it.
Just like in sales, if they haven't hung up the phone or haven't left the store it means they are still on the fence and its your job to pull them in until they leave.
They are looking for excuses not to, so you want to give them reasons to say yes.
Lotus Effect
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But the real truth is how does this affect you??
If it was from a girl you've never met, it wouldn't matter at all I suppose.
So all of this, is because this particular girl's opinion, matter to you, which shouldn't.
You should get to a point that this means nothing to you. Paradoxically, and ironically, when you get to that point (of not giving a sh*t) is when you'll get less of this behaviour!
EDIT: Really great stuff on your signature Igetit!
VladPatton
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Lotus Effect said:
Of course it affects you. It affects the direction you'll be going, based on her answer, plain and simple. If she says yes, it's game on, if she says anything else, it's a Next. It shouldn't affect you too much emotionally, though. Yeah, it sucks big hairy ballsacs, but you have no choice but to move on. When you continue to chase like a puppy without a clue, then you're FUBARed and your problems start.
Lotus Effect
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The same way as I agree with everyone else on the matter!
Anything but a yes is a no.
I just added another point on the subject, instead of keep on saying the obvious, which by the tenth reply, he must have understood!
I just wanted to bring the "it shouldn't affect you emotionally" point to the table!
Chill out! We are on the same page mate.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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