Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
A girl says I love you during sex... how do you handle this?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"I know."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sO-KR-14uXM
In doing so you acknowledge what the girl said without leading her on that you love her as well.
Said with a genuine smile on your part you can disarm the chick from flipping out on you if you don't say the love stuff back because she will feel like an assh0le to press you to say it after you made such a genuine sounding reply and gesture towards her in response. :yes:
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Take your situation as a good practice!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
bukowski_merit
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and hope that the dirty talk distracted her...
how long have you been boning this girl? if it's been a while - she's probably just looking to get a different emotion out of sex... something more emotional from you... some sensative talk (even if you're ripping her to pieces). if you give her that or not - is your choice (im talking about emotional talk, not "i love you too").... giving it to her will probably make her feel even more attraction to you... not giving it to her can make her feel not special and isolated... and you will probably begin to see her push away from you, by stepping up the sh!t testing....
Accension
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I promise you that your boss would have a world of respect for you if you put forward a genuine opinion in a non-confronting tone.Commandante said:
This is the key to being promoted.
The same concept I believe applies to women you just have to put forward your own opinion in a reasonable way and get resulting respect from it.
I feel no need to go into detail on why this works and how because the community's full of guys of titanic intelligence capable of reaching their own conclusions.
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saying i love you is a sure fire way to get her hornier in the heat of the moment
you need to stop thinking like an AFC and start thinking like a player who will tell women what they need to hear in order to get from them what you want
you have to evolve in the game, stop asking silly questions, and stop being such a nice proper guy
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Mr. Obvious said:
So you lie and tell a girl you love them, then she gets all excited and wants to get serious and starts talking about marriage and then you have to let her know you lied.
I dont think it's a good idea to be telling chics you love them just because they say it. The relationship will end when she finds out you lied. Maybe you did this when you were a kid but these days chics start thinking marriage after the i love you crap assuming you are dating chics 25 and up.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Vlad the 1mpaler said:
nope you never let them know you lied
what ends up happening is that everything fizzles out and she will magically end up losing feelings for you (which is good for you, because no one ends up getting hurt)
none of them who say they love you will end up loving you for LIFE
hello, think logically what are the odds of that???
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Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?Mr. Obvious said:
Dude, I am dating grown women not kids. Grown women dont take that I love you crap lightly.
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Vlad the Impaler said:
there is no reason to NOT date 18-20 year olds - they are perfect for getting everything you want as a man from a woman
stop dating BPD single moms who are trying to get knocked up - you'll breathe easier you fool
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Mr. Obvious said:
At least she was honest about it. She wants to get married and have another kid no big deal all woman do. She told me she is on the pill so I was hitting it raw for 2 months. If she was being sneaky trying to get knocked up I lucked the hell out. For some reason I trusted her I guess she was telling the truth... who the hell knows. I don't think she wants to be a single mom with another bastard.
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Vlad the Impaler said:
you are beating around the bush - admit to your mistake and announce to everyone that you are not going to repeat it
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.