"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A girl says I love you during sex... how do you handle this?

T-Mack

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I obviously do not love the girl. I'm pretty bad at faking it. Would a lot of you just tell the girl that you love them? I really hate saying those words.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Use the Han Solo response...

"I know."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sO-KR-14uXM

In doing so you acknowledge what the girl said without leading her on that you love her as well.

Said with a genuine smile on your part you can disarm the chick from flipping out on you if you don't say the love stuff back because she will feel like an assh0le to press you to say it after you made such a genuine sounding reply and gesture towards her in response. :yes:
 

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Ignore it and hopefully it will go away. Seriously dont fake it man. If you dont lover then you dont love her.
 

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If you don´t love her why do you care about faking it? There are more serious thing in live you have to fake. Like telling your boss: "Yes, exactly! It´s a perfect idea. Let´s do it!" with the biggest smile on your face.

Take your situation as a good practice!
 

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Ignore it. Chicks say that during sex sometimes as an automatic response. I've had first timers say that. It doesnt mean anything.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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no joke. i'd say "i love how my d!ck feels when it's sliding in and out of it... do you love the way that d!ck feels? tell me you love the way that d!ck feels!"

and hope that the dirty talk distracted her...

how long have you been boning this girl? if it's been a while - she's probably just looking to get a different emotion out of sex... something more emotional from you... some sensative talk (even if you're ripping her to pieces). if you give her that or not - is your choice (im talking about emotional talk, not "i love you too").... giving it to her will probably make her feel even more attraction to you... not giving it to her can make her feel not special and isolated... and you will probably begin to see her push away from you, by stepping up the sh!t testing....
 

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Commandante said:
If you don´t love her why do you care about faking it? There are more serious thing in live you have to fake. Like telling your boss: "Yes, exactly! It´s a perfect idea. Let´s do it!" with the biggest smile on your face.

Take your situation as a good practice!
I promise you that your boss would have a world of respect for you if you put forward a genuine opinion in a non-confronting tone.

This is the key to being promoted.
The same concept I believe applies to women you just have to put forward your own opinion in a reasonable way and get resulting respect from it.

I feel no need to go into detail on why this works and how because the community's full of guys of titanic intelligence capable of reaching their own conclusions. :cool:
 

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Hors "love" every body and no one, at the same time!
 

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just say it back, those words mean nothing 99.99% of the time in the dating game anyway

saying i love you is a sure fire way to get her hornier in the heat of the moment

you need to stop thinking like an AFC and start thinking like a player who will tell women what they need to hear in order to get from them what you want

you have to evolve in the game, stop asking silly questions, and stop being such a nice proper guy
 
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Mr. Obvious said:
just say it back, those words mean nothing 99.99% of the time in the dating game anyway

saying i love you is a sure fire way to get her hornier in the heat of the moment

you need to stop thinking like an AFC and start thinking like a player who will tell women what they need to hear in order to get from them what you want

you have to evolve in the game, stop asking silly questions, and stop being such a nice proper guy

So you lie and tell a girl you love them, then she gets all excited and wants to get serious and starts talking about marriage and then you have to let her know you lied.

I dont think it's a good idea to be telling chics you love them just because they say it. The relationship will end when she finds out you lied. Maybe you did this when you were a kid but these days chics start thinking marriage after the i love you crap assuming you are dating chics 25 and up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Vlad the 1mpaler said:
So you lie and tell a girl you love them, then she gets all excited and wants to get serious and starts talking about marriage and then you have to let her know you lied.

I dont think it's a good idea to be telling chics you love them just because they say it. The relationship will end when she finds out you lied. Maybe you did this when you were a kid but these days chics start thinking marriage after the i love you crap assuming you are dating chics 25 and up.

nope you never let them know you lied

what ends up happening is that everything fizzles out and she will magically end up losing feelings for you (which is good for you, because no one ends up getting hurt)

none of them who say they love you will end up loving you for LIFE

hello, think logically what are the odds of that???
 
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Mr. Obvious said:
nope you never let them know you lied

what ends up happening is that everything fizzles out and she will magically end up losing feelings for you (which is good for you, because no one ends up getting hurt)

none of them who say they love you will end up loving you for LIFE

hello, think logically what are the odds of that???
Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?

Dude, I am dating grown women not kids. Grown women dont take that I love you crap lightly.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?

Dude, I am dating grown women not kids. Grown women dont take that I love you crap lightly.

there is no reason to NOT date 18-20 year olds - they are perfect for getting everything you want as a man from a woman

stop dating BPD single moms who are trying to get knocked up - you'll breathe easier you fool
 
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Mr. Obvious said:
there is no reason to NOT date 18-20 year olds - they are perfect for getting everything you want as a man from a woman

stop dating BPD single moms who are trying to get knocked up - you'll breathe easier you fool

At least she was honest about it. She wants to get married and have another kid no big deal all woman do. She told me she is on the pill so I was hitting it raw for 2 months. If she was being sneaky trying to get knocked up I lucked the hell out. For some reason I trusted her I guess she was telling the truth... who the hell knows. I don't think she wants to be a single mom with another bastard.
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
At least she was honest about it. She wants to get married and have another kid no big deal all woman do. She told me she is on the pill so I was hitting it raw for 2 months. If she was being sneaky trying to get knocked up I lucked the hell out. For some reason I trusted her I guess she was telling the truth... who the hell knows. I don't think she wants to be a single mom with another bastard.

you are beating around the bush - admit to your mistake and announce to everyone that you are not going to repeat it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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