She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I promise you that your boss would have a world of respect for you if you put forward a genuine opinion in a non-confronting tone.Commandante said:If you don´t love her why do you care about faking it? There are more serious thing in live you have to fake. Like telling your boss: "Yes, exactly! It´s a perfect idea. Let´s do it!" with the biggest smile on your face.
Take your situation as a good practice!
Mr. Obvious said:just say it back, those words mean nothing 99.99% of the time in the dating game anyway
saying i love you is a sure fire way to get her hornier in the heat of the moment
you need to stop thinking like an AFC and start thinking like a player who will tell women what they need to hear in order to get from them what you want
you have to evolve in the game, stop asking silly questions, and stop being such a nice proper guy
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Vlad the 1mpaler said:So you lie and tell a girl you love them, then she gets all excited and wants to get serious and starts talking about marriage and then you have to let her know you lied.
I dont think it's a good idea to be telling chics you love them just because they say it. The relationship will end when she finds out you lied. Maybe you did this when you were a kid but these days chics start thinking marriage after the i love you crap assuming you are dating chics 25 and up.
Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?Mr. Obvious said:nope you never let them know you lied
what ends up happening is that everything fizzles out and she will magically end up losing feelings for you (which is good for you, because no one ends up getting hurt)
none of them who say they love you will end up loving you for LIFE
hello, think logically what are the odds of that???
Vlad the Impaler said:Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?
Dude, I am dating grown women not kids. Grown women dont take that I love you crap lightly.
Mr. Obvious said:there is no reason to NOT date 18-20 year olds - they are perfect for getting everything you want as a man from a woman
stop dating BPD single moms who are trying to get knocked up - you'll breathe easier you fool
Vlad the Impaler said:At least she was honest about it. She wants to get married and have another kid no big deal all woman do. She told me she is on the pill so I was hitting it raw for 2 months. If she was being sneaky trying to get knocked up I lucked the hell out. For some reason I trusted her I guess she was telling the truth... who the hell knows. I don't think she wants to be a single mom with another bastard.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.