You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I promise you that your boss would have a world of respect for you if you put forward a genuine opinion in a non-confronting tone.Commandante said:If you don´t love her why do you care about faking it? There are more serious thing in live you have to fake. Like telling your boss: "Yes, exactly! It´s a perfect idea. Let´s do it!" with the biggest smile on your face.
Take your situation as a good practice!
Mr. Obvious said:just say it back, those words mean nothing 99.99% of the time in the dating game anyway
saying i love you is a sure fire way to get her hornier in the heat of the moment
you need to stop thinking like an AFC and start thinking like a player who will tell women what they need to hear in order to get from them what you want
you have to evolve in the game, stop asking silly questions, and stop being such a nice proper guy
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Vlad the 1mpaler said:So you lie and tell a girl you love them, then she gets all excited and wants to get serious and starts talking about marriage and then you have to let her know you lied.
I dont think it's a good idea to be telling chics you love them just because they say it. The relationship will end when she finds out you lied. Maybe you did this when you were a kid but these days chics start thinking marriage after the i love you crap assuming you are dating chics 25 and up.
Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?Mr. Obvious said:nope you never let them know you lied
what ends up happening is that everything fizzles out and she will magically end up losing feelings for you (which is good for you, because no one ends up getting hurt)
none of them who say they love you will end up loving you for LIFE
hello, think logically what are the odds of that???
Vlad the Impaler said:Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?
Dude, I am dating grown women not kids. Grown women dont take that I love you crap lightly.
Mr. Obvious said:there is no reason to NOT date 18-20 year olds - they are perfect for getting everything you want as a man from a woman
stop dating BPD single moms who are trying to get knocked up - you'll breathe easier you fool
Vlad the Impaler said:At least she was honest about it. She wants to get married and have another kid no big deal all woman do. She told me she is on the pill so I was hitting it raw for 2 months. If she was being sneaky trying to get knocked up I lucked the hell out. For some reason I trusted her I guess she was telling the truth... who the hell knows. I don't think she wants to be a single mom with another bastard.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.