I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I promise you that your boss would have a world of respect for you if you put forward a genuine opinion in a non-confronting tone.Commandante said:If you don´t love her why do you care about faking it? There are more serious thing in live you have to fake. Like telling your boss: "Yes, exactly! It´s a perfect idea. Let´s do it!" with the biggest smile on your face.
Take your situation as a good practice!
Mr. Obvious said:just say it back, those words mean nothing 99.99% of the time in the dating game anyway
saying i love you is a sure fire way to get her hornier in the heat of the moment
you need to stop thinking like an AFC and start thinking like a player who will tell women what they need to hear in order to get from them what you want
you have to evolve in the game, stop asking silly questions, and stop being such a nice proper guy
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Vlad the 1mpaler said:So you lie and tell a girl you love them, then she gets all excited and wants to get serious and starts talking about marriage and then you have to let her know you lied.
I dont think it's a good idea to be telling chics you love them just because they say it. The relationship will end when she finds out you lied. Maybe you did this when you were a kid but these days chics start thinking marriage after the i love you crap assuming you are dating chics 25 and up.
Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?Mr. Obvious said:nope you never let them know you lied
what ends up happening is that everything fizzles out and she will magically end up losing feelings for you (which is good for you, because no one ends up getting hurt)
none of them who say they love you will end up loving you for LIFE
hello, think logically what are the odds of that???
Vlad the Impaler said:Didnt you say all the girls you did this to were 18 - 20 years old?
Dude, I am dating grown women not kids. Grown women dont take that I love you crap lightly.
Mr. Obvious said:there is no reason to NOT date 18-20 year olds - they are perfect for getting everything you want as a man from a woman
stop dating BPD single moms who are trying to get knocked up - you'll breathe easier you fool
Vlad the Impaler said:At least she was honest about it. She wants to get married and have another kid no big deal all woman do. She told me she is on the pill so I was hitting it raw for 2 months. If she was being sneaky trying to get knocked up I lucked the hell out. For some reason I trusted her I guess she was telling the truth... who the hell knows. I don't think she wants to be a single mom with another bastard.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.