"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A girl here, any questions?

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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iqqi said:
Most of you who post your pics are NOT hot. You yourself are always talking about how funny you look. And you posted your pic.
ROFL THIS IS SO TRUE!
I bet I've probably done this in the past, but I've improved my looks so theres no problem.

Crazy Asian said:
and grand almar, did she send u the pics?
Maybe, how much will you give me for one :p
Nahhh I wouldn't share someone's personal pics, thats just plain bein a jerk! :D
 

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Yeah, I have a question for you:

Why, specifically, do you think you're here? I mean, what is the gratification that you derive from coming on this forum and offering "advice".

This is a serious question. I want to see how you view yourself and your motivations.

Sun Tzu
 

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iqqi said:
Your previous statement would allude to the fact that only ugly people refuse to post their pics. Yet you consider yourself ugly, and YOU posted a pic.
i like ur logic, so if one person is ugly and doesn't post a pic, then ALL ugly people can't POSSIBLY post a pic!
 

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Sun Tzu said:
Yeah, I have a question for you:

Why, specifically, do you think you're here? I mean, what is the gratification that you derive from coming on this forum and offering "advice".

This is a serious question. I want to see how you view yourself and your motivations.

Sun Tzu
I agree, this is a very good question. Who do you think you are that you choose to come here to offer advice?
Your answer will definitely say something about yourself.

I like your question Sun. You word it unlike anyone else here. Dunno if thats through age but there's more wisdom in it than what anybody's said here, including me lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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and i'm a 0.8 on hot or not!
woot!
 

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GWA!
i always thought you were really old... ur 15?
i think it's because u have grand wizard in ur name....all the grand wizards i know are old!
 

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Sun Tzu said:
Why, specifically, do you think you're here? I mean, what is the gratification that you derive from coming on this forum and offering "advice".

This is a serious question. I want to see how you view yourself and your motivations.
I'm not Ms. Bee, but since you seem to mean why is a woman coming here, I can tell you why I am here (still). I personally come here for sh!ts and giggles.

I don't mean that condescendingly either. Some of the best laughs I get are from people here!

And I like some of the people on this board... I dunno where they are THIS year, lol. I have high levels of respect and admiration for members that I haven't seen since my return, but I've only been back for like a month.

When people like those posters are regularly posting here, this would have to be the most intelligent, humorous, and insightful forum I've ever come across. Great characters. Good conversation.

I post here when I am procrastinating with my work.

And I first came here for a man's advice on a personal AFC sob story of my own.
 

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
I agree, this is a very good question. Who do you think you are that you choose to come here to offer advice?
Your answer will definitely say something about yourself.

I like your question Sun. You word it unlike anyone else here. Dunno if thats through age but there's more wisdom in it than what anybody's said here, including me lol.
There is no wisdom in looking for reasons to judge another.
 

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iqqi said:
When people like those posters are regularly posting here, this would have to be the most intelligent, humorous, and insightful forum I've ever come across. Great characters. Good conversation.
Dayummm you hit the nail on the head there!
This is why emotions are more powerful than logic.

Logic makes your brain hurt and is annoying, but emotions make you feel something which is strong.

Haha try comparing doing a boring math problem with being stabbed in a dark alleyway.

Which is stronger, boredom or pain?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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iqqi said:
There is no wisdom in looking for reasons to judge another.
Well it's more of how she judges herself. How she justifies her position in a male-oriented forum.
 

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krazyboy99 said:
you guys are fvckin jacka55es. i bet the guys dissing her don't even have game and probably haven't been laid.

anyways i have two questions for you anna bee

1) what type of approach has been the most successful on you? like how would a guy who approaches you successfully do it, directly or indirectly, and saying what to start the conversation?

2) could a man who is not good looking to you in terms of physical appearance, through personality, get you to want to sleep with him?
Well, I think AnnaBee has retired for the evening. however never fear, the iq is here!

I used to post "reverse field reports", because I figure guys might want to hear what worked on me.

However you will see that in THIS day and age of sosuave, a woman's insights into what worked for a man approaching her, isn't... appreciated.

However, feel free to get what you can from my last "reverse" field report. Both you #1 and #2 are keys in that thread. Pay particular attention to Instance Two in that post.
 

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Do women have to post their pic to get respect around here??
 

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iqqi said:
HA!

Respect + women = doesn't equate here.

Not for nada, homie! Its them vs us mentality here for most (AFC's).
Haha so I've noticed. Long-time lurker. :up:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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krazyboy99 said:
just read your field report.
so it is possible for a man to make you feel sexually attracted without looks then? that pretty much settles the whole looks debate
It is more than possible. It is common!

Many women will become attracted to your looks more and more as you "grow on them". Soon your 6 status will become an 8!

I am sure this goes with men too. As a matter of fact, go check out the Comic Relief post in the anything else section.
 

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krazyboy99 said:
just read your field report.
so it is possible for a man to make you feel sexually attracted without looks then? that pretty much settles the whole looks debate
it really depends on the girl.....and about how picky she is with looks.
some girls might not even talk to you JUST because of ur looks, but some girls might try to look past it.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
it really depends on the girl.....and about how picky she is with looks.
some girls might not even talk to you JUST because of ur looks, but some girls might try to look past it.
You youngins! So cute.

You have to DO SOMETHING to get someone to look past your looks. This goes for men and women.
 
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iqqi said:
HA!

Respect + women = doesn't equate here.

Not for nada, homie! Its them vs us mentality here for most (AFC's).
The answer is in a question --- Does she deserve to be respected???

You can't demand respect solely for the mere fact that you are a woman - not today anyways!!
 

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The answer is in a question --- Does she deserve to be respected???

You can't demand respect solely for the mere fact that you are a woman - not today anyways!!
Well, Duh, my darling LMS.

But her question was, does it take a picture to get any respect. My answer to that was, not even that will help you here, baby!

To further go into that "respect debate", would justify a brand new thread.

All the previous comments were only in jest.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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