"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A frustrating girl

MountainSlide

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Hung out with this girl last night, have a history with her, care about her, banged her. def rocked her world. She asks if we can hang out again today. I said okay. No specific or firm plans. Texted her when I got off work, asked what time she’ll be ready by. She responds but doesn’t answer the question. So then I asked her straight up if she still wants to meet up. She responds again but avoids answering the question. Why can’t she just say yes or no??? Did I screw something up there?

I did end up just making plans with another girl and am going to meet up with her in a few minutes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Billtx49

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I said okay. No specific or firm plans.

Did I screw something up here?
Yep, if you wanted it to happen don’t leave it hanging out in the air gathering dust with no plans made. Make your intent clear to her and she will do the same if her IL is high enough. She asked you last night and didn’t get a firm offer from you, so she’s being equally noncommittal today…
Girls can think men can be flakey also.
 
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Hung out with this girl last night, have a history with her, care about her, banged her. def rocked her world.
How do you know you definitely rocked her world?

She asks if we can hang out again today. I said okay. No specific or firm plans. Texted her when I got off work, asked what time she’ll be ready by.
Oh man bro. Don’t just say “Okay.” Follow up, where and when.

She responds but doesn’t answer the question. So then I asked her straight up if she still wants to meet up. She responds again but avoids answering the question. Why can’t she just say yes or no??? Did I screw something up there?
What did she say?
 

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Silence and distance dude. Dont reward bad behavior by giving her any more attention.
After a bit she will ask why you havent called and texted. Just tell her that your time is valuable and when you ask a specific question you deserve a specific answer and if not, time to move on.
 

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Playing games = distance and silence forever until she reaches out IN A FLIRTING WAY.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Guess you didn’t rock her world like you thought, otherwise she would do a fair amount of work here too rather than so elusive.

But yea like @sph21 said. Be more decisive and be the man with the plan straight away. Streamline the whole process
 
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