Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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A frustrating girl

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Hung out with this girl last night, have a history with her, care about her, banged her. def rocked her world. She asks if we can hang out again today. I said okay. No specific or firm plans. Texted her when I got off work, asked what time she’ll be ready by. She responds but doesn’t answer the question. So then I asked her straight up if she still wants to meet up. She responds again but avoids answering the question. Why can’t she just say yes or no??? Did I screw something up there?

I did end up just making plans with another girl and am going to meet up with her in a few minutes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I said okay. No specific or firm plans.

Did I screw something up here?
Yep, if you wanted it to happen don’t leave it hanging out in the air gathering dust with no plans made. Make your intent clear to her and she will do the same if her IL is high enough. She asked you last night and didn’t get a firm offer from you, so she’s being equally noncommittal today…
Girls can think men can be flakey also.
 
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Hung out with this girl last night, have a history with her, care about her, banged her. def rocked her world.
How do you know you definitely rocked her world?

She asks if we can hang out again today. I said okay. No specific or firm plans. Texted her when I got off work, asked what time she’ll be ready by.
Oh man bro. Don’t just say “Okay.” Follow up, where and when.

She responds but doesn’t answer the question. So then I asked her straight up if she still wants to meet up. She responds again but avoids answering the question. Why can’t she just say yes or no??? Did I screw something up there?
What did she say?
 

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Silence and distance dude. Dont reward bad behavior by giving her any more attention.
After a bit she will ask why you havent called and texted. Just tell her that your time is valuable and when you ask a specific question you deserve a specific answer and if not, time to move on.
 

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Playing games = distance and silence forever until she reaches out IN A FLIRTING WAY.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Guess you didn’t rock her world like you thought, otherwise she would do a fair amount of work here too rather than so elusive.

But yea like @sph21 said. Be more decisive and be the man with the plan straight away. Streamline the whole process
 
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