"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MountainSlide

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Hung out with this girl last night, have a history with her, care about her, banged her. def rocked her world. She asks if we can hang out again today. I said okay. No specific or firm plans. Texted her when I got off work, asked what time she’ll be ready by. She responds but doesn’t answer the question. So then I asked her straight up if she still wants to meet up. She responds again but avoids answering the question. Why can’t she just say yes or no??? Did I screw something up there?

I did end up just making plans with another girl and am going to meet up with her in a few minutes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MountainSlide said:
I said okay. No specific or firm plans.

Did I screw something up here?
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Yep, if you wanted it to happen don’t leave it hanging out in the air gathering dust with no plans made. Make your intent clear to her and she will do the same if her IL is high enough. She asked you last night and didn’t get a firm offer from you, so she’s being equally noncommittal today…
Girls can think men can be flakey also.
 
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MountainSlide said:
Hung out with this girl last night, have a history with her, care about her, banged her. def rocked her world.
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How do you know you definitely rocked her world?

She asks if we can hang out again today. I said okay. No specific or firm plans. Texted her when I got off work, asked what time she’ll be ready by.
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Oh man bro. Don’t just say “Okay.” Follow up, where and when.

She responds but doesn’t answer the question. So then I asked her straight up if she still wants to meet up. She responds again but avoids answering the question. Why can’t she just say yes or no??? Did I screw something up there?
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What did she say?
 
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Silence and distance dude. Dont reward bad behavior by giving her any more attention.
After a bit she will ask why you havent called and texted. Just tell her that your time is valuable and when you ask a specific question you deserve a specific answer and if not, time to move on.
 
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Playing games = distance and silence forever until she reaches out IN A FLIRTING WAY.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Guess you didn’t rock her world like you thought, otherwise she would do a fair amount of work here too rather than so elusive.

But yea like @sph21 said. Be more decisive and be the man with the plan straight away. Streamline the whole process
 
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