escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Theres no rush to marriage. You can put a ring on her finger if shes been a loyal and committed woman for some years but take your time in marriage. Theres no race. There are a few states with favorable divorce laws. Consider them. Are her friends married? Are they cheating? What about her parents? Does she spend money, time and energy on you? How does she add to your life?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
If you "mastered game", then you wouldn't be asking this type of question. Back to basics dude.I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Maybe you should start by not asking irrelevant questions.Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
This guy gets it, All of this is actually very relevant.Maybe you should start by not asking irrelevant questions.
What are her measurements?
Is her mom fat?
What's her FICO?
What's her body count?
What's your body count?
What's her education?
What is her social circle like?
How many divorces in her social circle? In her family?
Does she love Jesus?
Do you love Jesus?
Do you share a Netflix account?
Do you check each other's emails?
Would she help you bury a body?
What if the body was her mother?
Would she give you a liver?
Would you give her a liver?
Does she like cats?
Do you like cats?
If she was blind, would you give her one of your eyes?
If she lost both arms and legs, would you carry her around or leave her on the side of the road?
If you lost all your money, and lost both arms and legs, would she work three jobs and still support you?
Would she still work to sexually satisfy you if you were broke and limbless?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why are you considering marriage? What do you expect to gain by being married?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
nah don't need marriage anymore anything more tehn 5 years together with her is enough to try to fuc|, you up on that, check your laws about it, in some only dating for 5 years with people knowing you was together is enough in some you need to live together for a certain number of years, hell in some place the years also difers so check it upMarry only if you want the government in your bed. Because, they fukk you too.
will not answer irrelevant answers, but make one irrelevant questionI'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Why?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
do you want to bring the state into your LTR?According to the National Center for Health Statistics, about 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce, and about 80 percent of the divorces are initiated by women. That 50 percent is often quoted and it is probably on the high side, but it is illuminating that 80 percent of the divorces are filed by the wife.
Who are you to tell us not to reply with irrelevant answers?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Do you even lift bro?
This is a phrase used to annoy people on the internet. It was for me, i just ignore it.If that comment is for me, yes I lift. That pic is me so I lift regularly.
I dunno.Let me ask you the most important question that I know of.
When you look at marriage, do you have that vision where there is team work and working together? How you answer will tell me everything I need to know about you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.