40 yo asking about marriage. Only reply if you are 35+ yo

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Let me ask you the most important question that I know of.

When you look at marriage, do you have that vision where there is team work and working together? How you answer will tell me everything I need to know about you.
I dunno.
 
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Understood. Well look at it and see what the reason is.
Marriage does not equal monogamy. Marriage will not commit a woman to you. So if you are doing it for that reason, then you aren’t aware of the world.

If you do think that there will be team work and working together due to being married...it’s not true and your vision of marriage is slanted by social conditioning.

The only purpose of marriage, is for having children and raising them if you look at it in a traditional way.

The purpose of a man being married is for a woman to bear him children. Yet in modern think, he rarely owns them. Meaning that he is saddled with the responsibility (financial) but the woman retains ownership by default.

You might want to figure out “why” you want to be married and be honest with yourself about those reasons.
 

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I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Does she make as much or more than you?

Does she have less debt than you?

Does she have more assets than you?

If the answer is "no" then tread cautiously.

Unless you like working until you are 75


Let me tell you, financially, from a strictly practical point of view how it goes. Once you are married, the hook is set. Most of your leverage is now gone, as you have removed all competition anxiety. She will push for kids, and once she has them, the hook is set deeper and you have lost 100% of your leverage.

The woman that you marry is never the woman that divorces you. People change.

And the family courts will teach you a hard lesson in "fairness" and equitable distribution of assets"
 
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Menopause aint no joke. They get more controlling when the sexual function is reduced. I think control is used for pleasure. Many also cant even decide to please their man orally when the sex drive died with menopause. They see no use. So less agreeable, more testosterone, no sex drive and more controlling. God...
 
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Theres no rush to marriage. You can put a ring on her finger if shes been a loyal and committed woman for some years but take your time in marriage. Theres no race. There are a few states with favorable divorce laws. Consider them. Are her friends married? Are they cheating? What about her parents? Does she spend money, time and energy on you? How does she add to your life?
Well said
 

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Need a baby or don't need a baby?
 

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Do you even lift bro?
Any of you who replied dating a chick under 25? if no then i wont care reading all the replies.
25 is a bit old. Not saying i won't do it. I sm saying hotter are turning 18 19 20 21. Another plate is 23. A few more in rotation.

I seriously don't bother with anything over 27 if not black out drunk and she's giving me a throater or the butt.

Women age like break and milk.
 
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No, under no circumstances should you do that unless you atleast get a prenup.. But even then id not do it, if you do she has won, she "owns" you and thst is not good, if you dont the hamster will keep on running if you do there is no need for the hamster to run
 

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If you plan on having kids, then yes, get married. If you guys have the same goals in life, then yes, get married. Before you do, make double triple sure that she feels "right" in your heart. By that I mean no red flags, she makes you and others around her smile and most importantly, she makes you a better person.
 

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The stupid is strong in this OP...

Answer this - what does a man gain in marriage that he does not already have?
 
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I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
I am a newby on this. But have a larger age gap than you suggest and definitely over 35... and married for long.

Whatever is your power balance with the girl now, marriage will change it at least for the reason that it is harder to walk away. If your close in balance, marriage can swing the power a little to the girl and possible over you. If you mastered game, you already know what that will mean.

If your really strong and the balance is far in favor of you now, then its just a question of if it will be fun or more fun for you. If you want your own family, it is the way and now is the time. If that is something you want then that is what it is. There is nothing in the world like holding your own child. You would need to double down then, and become not just mastered, but super mastered... because it will get harder.
 
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