escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Theres no rush to marriage. You can put a ring on her finger if shes been a loyal and committed woman for some years but take your time in marriage. Theres no race. There are a few states with favorable divorce laws. Consider them. Are her friends married? Are they cheating? What about her parents? Does she spend money, time and energy on you? How does she add to your life?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
If you "mastered game", then you wouldn't be asking this type of question. Back to basics dude.I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Maybe you should start by not asking irrelevant questions.Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
This guy gets it, All of this is actually very relevant.Maybe you should start by not asking irrelevant questions.
What are her measurements?
Is her mom fat?
What's her FICO?
What's her body count?
What's your body count?
What's her education?
What is her social circle like?
How many divorces in her social circle? In her family?
Does she love Jesus?
Do you love Jesus?
Do you share a Netflix account?
Do you check each other's emails?
Would she help you bury a body?
What if the body was her mother?
Would she give you a liver?
Would you give her a liver?
Does she like cats?
Do you like cats?
If she was blind, would you give her one of your eyes?
If she lost both arms and legs, would you carry her around or leave her on the side of the road?
If you lost all your money, and lost both arms and legs, would she work three jobs and still support you?
Would she still work to sexually satisfy you if you were broke and limbless?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Why are you considering marriage? What do you expect to gain by being married?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
nah don't need marriage anymore anything more tehn 5 years together with her is enough to try to fuc|, you up on that, check your laws about it, in some only dating for 5 years with people knowing you was together is enough in some you need to live together for a certain number of years, hell in some place the years also difers so check it upMarry only if you want the government in your bed. Because, they fukk you too.
will not answer irrelevant answers, but make one irrelevant questionI'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Why?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
do you want to bring the state into your LTR?According to the National Center for Health Statistics, about 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce, and about 80 percent of the divorces are initiated by women. That 50 percent is often quoted and it is probably on the high side, but it is illuminating that 80 percent of the divorces are filed by the wife.
Who are you to tell us not to reply with irrelevant answers?I'm 40 yo, financially stable, mastered game, and have a gf (31 yo). Should I marry her? Do not reply with irrelevant answers.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Do you even lift bro?
This is a phrase used to annoy people on the internet. It was for me, i just ignore it.If that comment is for me, yes I lift. That pic is me so I lift regularly.
I dunno.Let me ask you the most important question that I know of.
When you look at marriage, do you have that vision where there is team work and working together? How you answer will tell me everything I need to know about you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.