"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not many dudes are going to be able to do what I do simply from a physicality standpoint based on my strength and amount of work I've put in the gym, so my competition from that perspective is extremely low.

Never underestimate what being in peak physical shape and putting a ton of work in related to posterior chain exercises does for your thrusting power. I'm sending a chick through the bed frame or the wall if she is standing up, hahaha
So your abs are chiseled and cut all over? Yeah they get hot when they see that.
 

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So your abs are chiseled and cut all over? Yeah they get hot when they see that.
Some times of the year I have abs. Fall and winter I could care less about abs. Those have no bearing on the outcome
 

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Thanks Pyros.

Yes maybe I pushed it too far with the plans for her to come back to my place again, but as you said, if she was really interested she would have at least made a counter offer. Reality is, yes I do want to **** her because I am attracted to her, but I also want to get to know her better. However, if she also isnt attracted to me after 3 dates, whats the point in investing my time on her?

Update: she got back to me and said that after monday she will let me know when she is free. Still a bit wishy washy response
As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
 

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As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
Ha ha ha... damned if you do, damned if you don't.

There's no rhyme or reason to these girl's behavior. Some of them are just completely capricious, which makes you wonder why we strategize so much... ha ha
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Wasnt so much of a strategy from me, these were 2 normal pics of people having fun, its not like i was making out with another girl (although even if I was, she had nothing to do with it). But why would she just delete me after this?
 

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This is the crux of your nonsense.

I currently keep a long-term plate that qualifies as this "quality woman" nonsense. Had to drop another plate about 2 months back that was the same (resource management).

Started shagging them both within 3 dates.

Have you seriously never fvcked a "quality woman" in 3 dates before?
Do you seriously not know how to read?

I specifically said most are within 3-7 dates. Some plates I've ****ed on the 1st date, some on the 5th, some on the 3rd. The point is, I DO NOT CARE. I'm not some desperate beta hunting sluts. Women **** you when they're ready to **** you. For some, no amount of your so called "game" will make them drop their underwear on the first two dates. As long as they stick within my frame and provide external benefits such as cooking or taking me out, I'm willing to exercise that patience.

Spin plates. I'm always hustling 5-8 chicks at any given time.
 

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As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
Might have been the case, but it was just a selfie with 2 other girls laughing. I would say a more confident girl would be even more enticed to pursue me (if there was any high enough interest of course).
 

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Might have been the case, but it was just a selfie with 2 other girls laughing. I would say a more confident girl would be even more enticed to pursue me (if there was any high enough interest of course).
maybe she gets screwed by players a lot and isn't taking the chance

or maybe she mistook it for you already having a girlfriend and she didn't want to be a mistress
 

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maybe she gets screwed by players a lot and isn't taking the chance

or maybe she mistook it for you already having a girlfriend and she didn't want to be a mistress
Yes, true. Anyway, now its too late with this one, time to move on.
 

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some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
gotta give them the benefit of the doubt. Show you're a social guy, but too much proof of you chasing girls and showing you like to party may be a huge turn off to her. My sister is a "high value" gal but still AWALT. Ive talked to her about stuff like that before and she says it comes off as super "player-ish". In the end it could have been an array of different things, keep focusing on yourself.
 
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