"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Not many dudes are going to be able to do what I do simply from a physicality standpoint based on my strength and amount of work I've put in the gym, so my competition from that perspective is extremely low.

Never underestimate what being in peak physical shape and putting a ton of work in related to posterior chain exercises does for your thrusting power. I'm sending a chick through the bed frame or the wall if she is standing up, hahaha
So your abs are chiseled and cut all over? Yeah they get hot when they see that.
 

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So your abs are chiseled and cut all over? Yeah they get hot when they see that.
Some times of the year I have abs. Fall and winter I could care less about abs. Those have no bearing on the outcome
 

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Thanks Pyros.

Yes maybe I pushed it too far with the plans for her to come back to my place again, but as you said, if she was really interested she would have at least made a counter offer. Reality is, yes I do want to **** her because I am attracted to her, but I also want to get to know her better. However, if she also isnt attracted to me after 3 dates, whats the point in investing my time on her?

Update: she got back to me and said that after monday she will let me know when she is free. Still a bit wishy washy response
As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
 

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As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
Ha ha ha... damned if you do, damned if you don't.

There's no rhyme or reason to these girl's behavior. Some of them are just completely capricious, which makes you wonder why we strategize so much... ha ha
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Wasnt so much of a strategy from me, these were 2 normal pics of people having fun, its not like i was making out with another girl (although even if I was, she had nothing to do with it). But why would she just delete me after this?
 

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This is the crux of your nonsense.

I currently keep a long-term plate that qualifies as this "quality woman" nonsense. Had to drop another plate about 2 months back that was the same (resource management).

Started shagging them both within 3 dates.

Have you seriously never fvcked a "quality woman" in 3 dates before?
Do you seriously not know how to read?

I specifically said most are within 3-7 dates. Some plates I've ****ed on the 1st date, some on the 5th, some on the 3rd. The point is, I DO NOT CARE. I'm not some desperate beta hunting sluts. Women **** you when they're ready to **** you. For some, no amount of your so called "game" will make them drop their underwear on the first two dates. As long as they stick within my frame and provide external benefits such as cooking or taking me out, I'm willing to exercise that patience.

Spin plates. I'm always hustling 5-8 chicks at any given time.
 

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As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
Might have been the case, but it was just a selfie with 2 other girls laughing. I would say a more confident girl would be even more enticed to pursue me (if there was any high enough interest of course).
 

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Might have been the case, but it was just a selfie with 2 other girls laughing. I would say a more confident girl would be even more enticed to pursue me (if there was any high enough interest of course).
maybe she gets screwed by players a lot and isn't taking the chance

or maybe she mistook it for you already having a girlfriend and she didn't want to be a mistress
 

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maybe she gets screwed by players a lot and isn't taking the chance

or maybe she mistook it for you already having a girlfriend and she didn't want to be a mistress
Yes, true. Anyway, now its too late with this one, time to move on.
 

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some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
gotta give them the benefit of the doubt. Show you're a social guy, but too much proof of you chasing girls and showing you like to party may be a huge turn off to her. My sister is a "high value" gal but still AWALT. Ive talked to her about stuff like that before and she says it comes off as super "player-ish". In the end it could have been an array of different things, keep focusing on yourself.
 
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