Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So your abs are chiseled and cut all over? Yeah they get hot when they see that.Not many dudes are going to be able to do what I do simply from a physicality standpoint based on my strength and amount of work I've put in the gym, so my competition from that perspective is extremely low.
Never underestimate what being in peak physical shape and putting a ton of work in related to posterior chain exercises does for your thrusting power. I'm sending a chick through the bed frame or the wall if she is standing up, hahaha
Some times of the year I have abs. Fall and winter I could care less about abs. Those have no bearing on the outcomeSo your abs are chiseled and cut all over? Yeah they get hot when they see that.
As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .Thanks Pyros.
Yes maybe I pushed it too far with the plans for her to come back to my place again, but as you said, if she was really interested she would have at least made a counter offer. Reality is, yes I do want to **** her because I am attracted to her, but I also want to get to know her better. However, if she also isnt attracted to me after 3 dates, whats the point in investing my time on her?
Update: she got back to me and said that after monday she will let me know when she is free. Still a bit wishy washy response
Ha ha ha... damned if you do, damned if you don't.As an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Is that a plate? The only plate that banters like that with me is super sluttyIt's really not that complicated fellas.
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Don't overlook the truth that beaches want to fcuk too.
Do you seriously not know how to read?This is the crux of your nonsense.
I currently keep a long-term plate that qualifies as this "quality woman" nonsense. Had to drop another plate about 2 months back that was the same (resource management).
Started shagging them both within 3 dates.
Have you seriously never fvcked a "quality woman" in 3 dates before?
I only do plates right now, nothing serious.Is that a plate? The only plate that banters like that with me is super slutty
some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being playedAs an update on this, last night I posted on Facebook 2 pics of me having fun with 2 lady friends, just 2 selfies where the 3 of us are laughing and in one of them I wrote "partying like a rockstar, with so and so" .
This morning, I find out that this girl I went out with 3 times before unfriended me on facebook and blocked my contact on Whatsapp. What the hell...?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Might have been the case, but it was just a selfie with 2 other girls laughing. I would say a more confident girl would be even more enticed to pursue me (if there was any high enough interest of course).some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played
maybe she gets screwed by players a lot and isn't taking the chanceMight have been the case, but it was just a selfie with 2 other girls laughing. I would say a more confident girl would be even more enticed to pursue me (if there was any high enough interest of course).
Yes, true. Anyway, now its too late with this one, time to move on.maybe she gets screwed by players a lot and isn't taking the chance
or maybe she mistook it for you already having a girlfriend and she didn't want to be a mistress
gotta give them the benefit of the doubt. Show you're a social guy, but too much proof of you chasing girls and showing you like to party may be a huge turn off to her. My sister is a "high value" gal but still AWALT. Ive talked to her about stuff like that before and she says it comes off as super "player-ish". In the end it could have been an array of different things, keep focusing on yourself.some girls actually don't like players, and she probably thought she was being played