"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
1. Any of you approach in the grocery store? I'd like to do this but it just seems odd. Any advice is appreciated.
2. I had an HB8 in my report that was giving me serious eye contact, but she was with a dude. How would you handle that? I feel like I missed an opportunity as she made it clear she was interested in me. But I didn't know how to handle the dude.
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That's weak. An important aspect of cold approaching is gaining social skills and increasing the number of approaches including their quality. Simply saying "hey, give me your number" is a proxy for hiding in the caves of one's fears and insecurities. In other words, it is completing the technical side of this week's challenge without learning anything--a stagnation effect at best. It is like getting an "A" by cheating on an exam--looks good on paper, but worthless in reality.Packers2010 said:
1 - Ask about a food item. If you are shopping near here, just go "Hey, can you help me? I was told about some recipe using this, but I can't remember what exactly it was.." - or - "Do you know of any good recipes for this? I was told to cook something up with it, but I've got no idea what to make." - or - "Help a guy out here, which flavor do you recommend?" - or - "That's an interesting choice, what are you making with that?" (has to be loud enough that she knows you are speaking to her, and clear).coachD said:
Any of those have potential to jump into conversation on food, tangent into anything really. "I had this holiday dinner with this, this.." etc etc. Anything can be used fairly easily.
2 - Not sure on the context. Describe the situation more?
Robyn; I somewhat disagree on the direct approach. Having the confidence to make a direct approach can dramatically help confidence in making an indirect approach. It all depends on context. I'd recommend every guy make a few direct approaches, straight-up. It takes more confidence, imo, than making an unobtrusive comment and trying to start a conversation.
That said, I agree in that it doesn't build or improve the social skills, which is a definite point of this competition. It will help confidence levels, though, which can indirectly assist the social skills. If I'd make a suggestion, you could say that a direct approach needs a follow-up, which I'd argue is just as beneficial as an indirect approach with a decent length conversation.
I got one in today, the only cute girl in my age range that was in starbucks right now. She was definitely not interested in talking though, she tried closing the conversation like 3 times, which I kind of deliberately ignored to keep her talking. Maybe will re-open her another time, who knows, may run into her again if she's studying in the bux. But anyways.. my summary comes later.
The thing Packers is talking about seems kind of like the Good Looking Loser approach. I guess there's good and bad to it. If you do it enough you've got a numbers advantage. That'd probably be great if you live in NYC and can troll the streets. But not in the suburbs.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Like this : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1mRM1VwUiYAPlutoman said:
Packers2010
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some girl started talking to me, then a dude started talking to me asking me questions. it's was a bit alarming. couldn't tell if he was gay or not. maybe he was.Gray The Prince said:
i'm calling it a 3some pick up. maybe i'm just saving face.
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lol.. that was a joke man. you really think i am going to do that?Robyn923b said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Packers2010
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so i have to ask 7 girls for there number?Plutoman said:
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No you need to approach a total of 7 women, but only ask a selected 3 for their number.Packers2010 said:
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Alright. Keep up the good work.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Hopefully the weekend saves me.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.