I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm in the Mood said:I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
Robyn923b said:It would be unfair to compete against less experienced lads and to contribute to their anxiety by defeating them. My AA is still present, but not to the extent that it was before. Upon reflection, I agree that it is time to let other guys a chance to win. However...
I want to help new guys get over their anxiety and define the winner from the last competition once and for all.
Let's break down challenges into two categories: I. New participants II. Top 4 previous participants. This way we can coach the new guys and give them challenges. At the same time, the four of us will compete to see who is the best without interfering with their progress and motivation. This way, we would post our interactions and gentlemen new to the game would have the opportunity to see our moves and learn from them. Additionally, I will help you create the challenges for the new participants. As for the advanced challenges, we (the top 4) will create them consensually so that we have realistic, challenging goals that will move us to the next level.
PM me your thoughts.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.AAAgent said:coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).
If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.
If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
I'm in the Mood said:How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
black jesus said:when does the tournament start? i dont want to be left behind haha
AAAgent said:coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).
If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.
If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm in the Mood said:How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
Packers2010 said:your a cool guy. so want to be on your team
Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.Gray The Prince said:Yeah, we talked it over and we're going to do what you suggested. This thread will for you guys and will be moderated by me, Robyn and AJ.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
We have a competition you can join. GTP and I are in it. You can join since you were in the last 4.This is to set the winner once for all.Deicide said:Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.