I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm in the Mood said:I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
Robyn923b said:It would be unfair to compete against less experienced lads and to contribute to their anxiety by defeating them. My AA is still present, but not to the extent that it was before. Upon reflection, I agree that it is time to let other guys a chance to win. However...
I want to help new guys get over their anxiety and define the winner from the last competition once and for all.
Let's break down challenges into two categories: I. New participants II. Top 4 previous participants. This way we can coach the new guys and give them challenges. At the same time, the four of us will compete to see who is the best without interfering with their progress and motivation. This way, we would post our interactions and gentlemen new to the game would have the opportunity to see our moves and learn from them. Additionally, I will help you create the challenges for the new participants. As for the advanced challenges, we (the top 4) will create them consensually so that we have realistic, challenging goals that will move us to the next level.
PM me your thoughts.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.AAAgent said:coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).
If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.
If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
I'm in the Mood said:How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
black jesus said:when does the tournament start? i dont want to be left behind haha
AAAgent said:coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).
If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.
If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm in the Mood said:How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
Packers2010 said:your a cool guy. so want to be on your team
Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.Gray The Prince said:Yeah, we talked it over and we're going to do what you suggested. This thread will for you guys and will be moderated by me, Robyn and AJ.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
We have a competition you can join. GTP and I are in it. You can join since you were in the last 4.This is to set the winner once for all.Deicide said:Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.