"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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2nd annual approach anxiety competition

I'm in the Mood

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I'm in. I have extremely bad approach anxiety.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gray The Prince

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Robyn923b said:
It would be unfair to compete against less experienced lads and to contribute to their anxiety by defeating them. My AA is still present, but not to the extent that it was before. Upon reflection, I agree that it is time to let other guys a chance to win. However...



I want to help new guys get over their anxiety and define the winner from the last competition once and for all.

Let's break down challenges into two categories: I. New participants II. Top 4 previous participants. This way we can coach the new guys and give them challenges. At the same time, the four of us will compete to see who is the best without interfering with their progress and motivation. This way, we would post our interactions and gentlemen new to the game would have the opportunity to see our moves and learn from them. Additionally, I will help you create the challenges for the new participants. As for the advanced challenges, we (the top 4) will create them consensually so that we have realistic, challenging goals that will move us to the next level.

PM me your thoughts.

Excellent Idea. Let's do it.
 

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coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).

If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.

If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
 

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when does the tournament start? i dont want to be left behind haha
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm in the Mood

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AAAgent said:
coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).

If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.

If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.
How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.
 

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I'm in the Mood said:
How about if we create teams? This could be more interesting and have a greater impact on this community.

Too complicated, that'll just get confusing after a while. It'll just be a good ol' fashioned last man standing tourney.
 

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black jesus said:
when does the tournament start? i dont want to be left behind haha

I'm looking at a January 5th start date. DOn't worry, nobody is going to be left behind because I will message everybody who enters, reminding them of the start date and objective.
 

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AAAgent said:
coaches don't normally participate (but i understand u guys want to participate as well).

If you guys were more experienced i'd say each person could pick a few people to coach. If their gladiator won....that would be awesome haha.

If you guys do decide to have your own competition i suggest starting a new thread as your posts may hinder ours or discourage some others.

Yeah, we talked it over and we're going to do what you suggested. This thread will for you guys and will be moderated by me, Robyn and AJ.
 

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not sure yet. i live in an small town now so it takes me a little while like 30 mins to get to a place big enough to do this. i don't have a car or heaps of money...


ah.. **** it... i'm in
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Updated List of Participants so far:

AAAgent
Black Jesus
Btownbuck2012
Donjuanit0
TheMusic
Roman81
I'm in the mood
Packers2010
3countriesplan
Badboyjmm
dandelion


Come on guys, it's a new start to a new year. Time to make a change. Those of you lurking need to get working.
 
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I'm in, approaching is a weak part of my game (I rely on social circle and night game 70% of the time) and I want to approach more this year turning the ratio over to 70% daygame...

I should add that if you guys have any strict limits on posting time that I won't be able to make them probably so I can just take part as an unofficial participant.. haha, will be in Hong Kong for another week then headed to the Bay Area and then Portland and MAYBE Las Vegas next month
 

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Gray The Prince said:
Yeah, we talked it over and we're going to do what you suggested. This thread will for you guys and will be moderated by me, Robyn and AJ.
Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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badboyjmm

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I don't have any prospect, so beating the anxiety will be great. Put me in
 

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This sounds interesting, and I think a clear goal will help my AA.

And I live in a city where I see chicks I should approach multiple times per day.

Sign me up!
 

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The above list has been updated as of 12/30/2011 at 8:43 am CST.


Come on guys, more of you NEED to sign up. A year from now, you will wish you started today!
 

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Deicide said:
Hey, I'd like to contribute. I'll finish out our Top 4 slot.
We have a competition you can join. GTP and I are in it. You can join since you were in the last 4.This is to set the winner once for all.

As for your contribution, PM GTP and I your thoughts and we'll take it from there.
 

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Is the game going to be identical to the first one or are you guys going to make changes? I haven't read the first thread yet, so I'll want to study that if we're copying it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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